Seeing as non devs are joining in the rants (even though I already posted ... forget that one please, thankyou) here's mine.
The lesbian tag when the game has a male protag. That's not lesbian, at best it's bi at worst it's a threesome. 2 girls licking pussy while a guy rails them both isn't lesbian, it isn't even close to lesbian, the inclusion of penis kills any form of lesbianism that could have happened. A girl getting it on with another girl then fucking a bloke also isn't lesbian. Any penis being introduced instantly stops it from being lesbian.
As an expert on all things lesbian having been one for many years I can't reiterate enough time that it's only lesbian if it's only women. Anything else is bi. I get annoyed every time I see "male protag" and "lesbian" in the tags because it's instantly a fucking lie. Even on the off chance the game does have a lesbian character either the players will whine enough that it gets changed or the dev has her "cured by cock".
While it was very politically incorrect, back in '83... Comedian Eddie Murphy, did a routine talking about how women in general could "hang out" with gays, and feel comfortable. Because she doesn't want anything from him, and he doesn't want anything from her, so they can be friends without any sexual component to the relationship.
I have lesbian friends who enjoy hanging out. They don't want anything from me, and I don't want anything from them. We both appreciate the scenery of hot women, we sexualize and objectify everything and everyone around us, but we respect each other.
I get where you're coming from, wanting to be respected as a lesbian, but sexuality is not binary, it's a spectrum. Your sexual preference is your choice. We've made progress in changing people's thinking, separating "gender" from "sex" and "sexual preference". Sex is the equipment you were born with(subject to change) Gender is how you feel about yourself. I feel like a man. Sexual preference is who you want to have sex with. Sex is generally apparent. Your gender and sexual preference are not.
It's perfectly natural for someone who is attracted to boobs, to approach a person with boobs. If you aren't holding a sign, they have no way of knowing your gender or your sexual preference until you tell them. No harm in asking.
To gain respect an argument has to be logical. Those who say "I was born gay" I don't deny that that is possible, but being gay is their sexual preference, their choice. It should be respected whatever that choice is, but many are undecided. I'm straight, firm in that choice, my gay friends might unsuccesfully try and sway me, but my mind is made up. I don't disrespect them for trying, and I might even encourage them to fantasize about me fucking the shit out of them. It's the nature of the business i'm in to be provocative. Game characters are there for the user to enjoy, in whatever capacity the player chooses. If not banging the lesbian is an option, then a lesbian tag is appropriate. Saying "she's not a real lesbian" because she could be banged by a dude, is similar to those who say having two males in a game is NTR or even gay.