The stall in development is clearly a result of poor planning of the story.
The scope of the story was not small to start with. You're a general and you seduce the king's daughters (and possibly 1-2 side romances). This is premise is actually complicated but is still a manageable story complexity.
Now the scope of the story involves 3 of the king's daughters, the old queen, the old queen's best friend, your old romance, your personal servant, your masseuse, the dev's pet fetish girl, 2-3 side romances, 3 external factions (with their own romance options), your kingdom's trade partners, daughters & sisters of the side characters, your military officers, scheming diplomats, a gay male heir, at least one deity, your alternate-dimension female incarnation, a robotic terminator from the future, and a pet turtle.
It probably can't be salvaged unless someone with more focus comes in to cut through the thicket here and get back to some kind of core story.