Can we be the dominant one
The dildo you get is actually a Goddess-bonded special weapon, so ... basically you're the one wielding it.
Although... this isn't a game where vanilla is the usual. For example, one female LI has scenes where she accidentally spikes you in the foot (don't worry, you're canonically a Night Fae who has self-regeneration) and then
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Oh, and at one point (scroll up for a post scene screen-shot) you fuck a building.
Literally.
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Reallllllly not a game where "I'm only comfortable with totally vanilla lesbian sex" is gonna get you through it, although it's pretty good about giving you the option to skip scenes. You'll just miss out on a
lot of it if you constantly click the "restraint" option.