Nah, the real difference between Matt and Violet as Dommes is that one relationship will work out in the future, the other will just leave you pregnant with a few kids on the street.
Violet simply is just HER. Rich, Takes consent, takes you out on dates, SSS+ tier Snuusnuu, stands up for you in multiple occasions, wholesome when you need. ( Also is a switch

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vs
Matt:
Gropes you on the first day, Blackmails you, Shares you with people, treats you worse than some people treat even animals, doesn't take you out on dates, gets diffed by the walking Joe with a bit of spine or someone who simply has the braincells to show him where he exactly stands, NTRs your relationship, yada yada.