- Jul 7, 2017
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I understand what you are trying to tell us.As an interesting parallel to this current discussion:
A girl I dated ages ago was dating a guy (prior to me) who her parents seriously didn't approve of. They threatened to disown her if she kept going with him. She ignored them, they got very upset, she left home, and eventually she discovered he was already engaged to another girl and was just messing with her.
She was very hurt, ended up going back to her parents and they took her in, no questions asked. And at no point did they actually disown her.
So they were right, this guy was a piece of garbage, but she wouldn't listen (young girls "in love" can be pretty brainless) and they didn't want her to get hurt so they made big threats (and that's all they were, threats) to try and protect her.
In the end she survived it all, the lousy boyfriend, the controlling parents, and once it was all over she saw their point.
Now were her parents overreacting, I mean she survived it and maybe learned a valuable lesson. But she could have been spared all that heartache if she listened to her parents. But how can a parent watch their child totally fuck up and just sit by the sidelines?
Just to make sure there's no confusion here, I was not the garbage guy...
Logically, parents have greater life experience than their children. But parents should understand and accept that children have a right to make mistakes. Because only from mistakes you learn.
I told my parents this to their face and they accepted it. And I have made more than one mistake in my life. Even after 15 years, my parents still tell me that they are proud of me.