Going to sound horrible here, but that's a terrible argument to make.
The majority of porn and porn game consumers are men. The majority of porn games are for men... and are trash.
As for playing as a woman, the game Glamour (where BB has started being remade in, with Max as male protag) has a female protagonist who is a polar opposite of Max, although he and the rest of the BB cast do appear, with Alice so far being more prominent in Kate's world so far.
Like BB, Glamour is grindy as hell, and barely more than a visual novel.
As I mentioned though, BB is being remade in Glamour, so expect Kate's story to take a back seat every now and then.