For me personally, it's like a movie. In a movie, there are no choices, the viewer just watches the story. Visual novels are more like movies than games because there is no gameplay and the focus is on the story. Choices in VNs are a good thing, but it's also okay without choice if the story is good.
Same here, most players/users focus on it in a 1st person perspective because they just want a game where they decide most the things and live too closely to what the characters do hehe but they forget that is mostly the creator/dev point of view of things and we are all different and enjoy different things.
I don't mind that view but I switch my focus on this adult novels as a 3rd person viewer and a 1st person player, sometimes is a book with images and other times is a game with choices. That is why I don't mind "playing" or more correct reading/visualize a kinetic novel, as long the story is engaging and doesn't have too many "red flags" on things I don't like to watch or read, even if those sometimes "force" me to engage in an uncomfortable scene, as long they aren't too many or NTR/sharing the potential LI's with other males, yep I'm a bit possessive that way

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Edit: Even though I never mind if the potential LI's engage in lesbian action without my consent or with consent, i'm also weird like that

yeah I know that is also NTR for some but never is for me, I make that distinction in my perverted mind

. Even though in the case of Eruption Imminent, a futa game is kind of hard to make a distinction on gender but I can make that distinction in my mind, mostly on the personality/traits if I see them as a "male" or not, the cop for me definitely have too many "male" traits and would get annoyed if they touch other potential LIs hahaha