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Very true. The literal meaning of polyamory (ignoring relationship patterns common in the community for now) is having the capacity to love more than one person.Something that both of you seems to not grasp completely ( and it's understandable if you don't have that mindset in real life) is that the MC can say to Annie he had a crush on her for the long time and, at the same time, he can romance Nancy, Dalia and the other girls without finding it strange, because the romantic feelings coexist in his mind without causing him doubt or restraining his actions.
When he's with Annie in that moment only her is important to him, but the moment he's with Nancy or the other girls the same thing happen.
This doesn't mean he's faking love for Annie, or he's compartmentalizing, he just truly love all of them at the same time, and that's what clash with your own ability to read the situation, because you didn't experienced that irl, you can't really accept that completely that's why at a certain point you have issues with it.
That's why many of my games will have polyamorous characters. It's what I know, so it is what I'll write about.We aren't educated to polyamorous relationships, our society is constantly focused on prioritizing the monogamy instead ( I don't want to list all the various influences that concur to create this mindset, religions, families, etc etc, this is not the right place to talk exhaustively of this), so as much as we try to evade it with these games, we always find the MC somewhat of a cheater consciously or not.
That is my hope. Right now, he's not saying it. Ethically, he should have been more up front, but the fact that all the women are bonding with each other gives me hope.Especially when in the story he's not being honest and upfront saying to the girls that he want an open relationship, but to his partial justification Orion at this point of the story is still living in the moment not really thinking to settle it, as a figure of speech the soil is being prepared ( see the jealousy between Dalia and Penelope where Orion is present, Penelope saying to Nova he likes Orion and her realizing she have a crush on him, Dalia and Alex talking about guys they like, I think Nancy already suspect something like it happened with Carla in OIAL and the other hints about it), for when the times of confrontation will happen, but it's still early to see that.
This time Caribdis is writing the story way better than in OIAL imho, he's slowly building the moment where everything will be in day broad daylights and things will be settled ( and also where he need to have the girls in love with him and open to accept sharing him).
Yes, as you said before, we are taught in the society to look for The One, the Soulmate. Much like how the number of "out" LGB individuals has increased as more of society has accepted them, I see much more polyamorous and Relationship Anarchists among the younger generations.Of course this is only my point of view, but I think this is what happening to you, it's not simple to really believe in real love when you have it with more that one girl, but this is the paradox with polyamorus/harem games you either accept it as true or else you will have problems accepting it completely.![]()
True. in the modern context, a polyamorous "polycule" makes more sense to me than a more traditional harem or polygynous marriage. The polyamory movement has always been more female-centric, with women being the movers and shakers in the community.Yeah, the "problem" is, that in the real world, most women probably wouldn't be too okay with a guy that comes on to them and pretty much moves into a position to start a committed relationship while doing the same with 5 or so other women as well.
My own polyamorous approach has always been to encourage my lovers to get to know and respect each other, to become friends if possible. The fact that the women of Eternum are bonding with each other bodes well from my point of view.Just as in OiaLT were everybody somehow was just okay with it and when you have characters that are otherwise written believable and well than it is a bit harsh to swallow the "oh, they are all just okay with it" pill if indeed that is the part we are going.
If there must be a "bomb," I expect some of the women will balk, but others will talk to them and things will improve. Realistically, in any case, some would accept and some would reject, but I think we need all of the "Seven Sisters" on board by the end.So, we have to see what happens when the "bomb goes off" and how the different characters react. I hope it will not simply be an "I'm okay with it" kinda reaction.
Definitely! Too much work for little benefit, especially since it seems that appeasing a few would delay the rest of us.And about visiting the servers without the girl: That is just not possible. It would mean writing a parallel story (why would the MC even be in there without one of the girls asking to meet him there) and all of the pictures would have to be changed and rendered again...that would just be tons of additional work for little benefit.
Yes, my son grew up with a mother and two father figures (one of who had a long term partner, the other (me) had a few whom he dated). Having three adults in the home that were looking out for him made him a very confident man, who is polyamorous along with his wife. Exposure to new concepts at a young age can make all the difference.Agreed, but as I said, imho, it's a cultural issue first and foremost in real life and it can reflect on how you perceive a fictional work that goes against it.
If you are accustomed by everything around you to see polyamorous relations as wrong, and be frowned upon and considering all the other psychological pressure to get your mindset on the monogamy as the only positive value, you will get that issue ( and girls and women are especially forced to undergo that from young age).
Ah... I remember the "polyamorous in all situations." These people saw polyamory as the simple solution to all of literature's romantic triangles. Mary Zimmer Bradley had that in her book Mists of Avalon. The thing is, polyamory isn't for everyone. It is not a simple solution for cheating. People who cheat in monogamous relationships are still prone to cheating in polyamorous relationships (by ignoring agreements and boundaries). It's not a cure-all.I'm not saying I'm a pro polyamorous at all costs, but I think that a big role in making these themes popular is that we are conditioned to see them as taboo, and it's in human nature to be curious about it, and these games can offer at least a taste of it without having to do that in real life, only one thing is never made clear enough for me in these works ( or it's rarely done).
You're giving away some of the plot of my polyamorous story! j/kBeing in a polyamorous relation doesn't mean you're granted to have sex with as many women as you want without having nothing to fear, instead is committing yourself to an even more engaging role, because you need to love ( and when I write love I mean love, respect, treat them good and make all the women you are in a relations with feel really loved and respected) women like you will do in a monogamous relation.
A polyamorous woman once wrote Polyamoy: Twice the fun, but three times the work. I think it's more of a factorial relationship. Fun=Partners^2, Work=Partners^3.
I really have to try OiaL.Talothral with his works made a very good work on that in my opinion.
And yes, that was one of the weak parts of OIAL for me as well ( but I think it was due to it being Caribdis first work so he payed a little bit of inexperience) I agree, something that I'm seeing treated way better in Eternum, he's more careful and is planning everything with a good balance as of right now, at least to me.
We need to see when the time comes what he planned, but I think it would be good, I don't think there would be too unnecessary drama, but the right amount of it and a good ending to everything.