Two wrongs do not make a right.
I didn't say it was right, I said it's understandable; there's a world of difference.
attacking the person you want to help you is a fucking stupid thing to do
I didn't say otherwise. But again, doing something stupid does not make her "just as bad" as slavers.
Even if she hadn't hurt the MC, their plan was still to abduct him, bundle him into their getaway van, and take him to their hideout. Sylvia and Ann both knew that was the plan, so aren't they equally culpable for the MC getting smacked upside the head? It's was clearly a bad plan, but it wasn't just her idea, and it's not like she thought hurting him would predispose him to do as they asked; it's that she couldn't think of any way to abduct someone much bigger than she is without use of force.
How would you ask for the MC's help in her position? They don't trust him, which is why they disguise themselves, and if they just turn up at his place and say "hey, we're escaped slaves, we could use your help" what guarantee do they have that he won't turn them in? How would you ask for his help without exposing yourself?
I said in some ways, when you are out hurting innocent people, yes, that is bad, no matter how you look at it.
I didn't say it wasn't bad; I said it wasn't anywhere near as bad; the degree of difference makes them essentially incomparable.
Compare the harm done by a single mugger to the harm done during the Trail of Tears, or the Rape of Nanking, or the Holocaust, or the Holodomor, or Stalin's Purges; do you think that hypothetical mugger is just as bad as any of those events?
If you treat people badly, you have to expect that treatment in return, it is partly your fault.
Agreed, but imagine being Nia; imagine how badly she's been treated by every human she's ever known, imagine how many times she probably met a human who seemed nicer but ultimately proved to be just as bad. Do you think she should still give people the benefit of the doubt, when she's got over three hundred years of experience telling her all humans are alike?
Yes, he only just started to make those changes, especially in the eyes of a long lived elf. To an elf, those changes might as well have just happened last week.
Exactly, and they can all be undone by the next person to hold his position, and given her fatalistic worldview, she likely fully expects that to happen. From her perspective, relying on the laws he passed (laws which are stated to have been controversial) to keep her safe is a terrible idea.
I think the violence is a lot more restricted than it used to be, but I admit, my memory is a bit fuzzy at the moment.
It's a little unclear exactly
HOW things are better now, even though we're told they are. Cornwall prevents Mr. Jason forcing Sui to engage in anal sex, but was perfectly willing to watch her get forced to give oral and vaginal sex, despite her obvious reluctance; he clearly threatens to give Sylvia to someone who'll treat her worse than he does when she refuses to do what he wants, but also relents when she refuses to have anal sex with him; he has absolutely no problem forcing Lin to expose herself in public no matter what she or the MC want, and threatens to revoke your license if you don't comply. It's all very inconsistent, because Runey is telling a story, not trying to formulate an internally consistent legal structure.
and that contest was part of the catalyst for some bigger changes to come.
Nia doesn't know that, and therefore can't make decisions that factor that into her thought process; in-universe no-one knows what the future holds. Some few people know Cornwall's intent, but unlike the audience, they've not heard from the creator of their world (Runey) what the future holds, and they didn't see "The Toymaker".
Even choosing the slave route, he is far kinder than most, a bj once in a while for free room and board, food, utilities,
"Kinder than most" is not the same as kind, nor is it moral. An organization that helps teen runaways avoid homelessness, and all they ask in return is the occasional blowjob might be "better than being homeless" but it's also absolutely immoral.
The fact that the Slave route is unquestionably, and substantially, better than the lives of most elves just underscores how terrible their lives actually are.
Even Ann, who acknowledged that she had a better life than most and seemed to think well of the MC, said during the kidnapping "even if he accepts, there's no guarantee he'll treat us any better". She knows the way she's been treated has been poor, even if it was better than most elves got.
It wasn't just Lin, Sylvia also saw that we were not bed, even if she didn't care to admit it at first.
Sylvia saw that the MC wasn't as bad as most other masters, that's not the same thing. If it were an option, she'd absolutely choose "not be a slave".
She could have gotten out a long time ago if she had wanted.
She couldn't afford a plane or boat ticket, she couldn't exactly swim across the ocean, and she mentions running away in the past and being caught again, so I don't think "leave the cities" works as easily as you imagine. Remember, there are no elves outside of Syl'anar other than Kali's step-mother and the elves her father used for his experiments, which kind of suggests there's not a lot of successful escape attempts.
As for being part of the underground railroad, remember she doesn't get those slaves to freedom, she gets them to better masters. That implies that "actual freedom" isn't really an option, or that's the one she (and others) would have picked.
Nia didn't chose to remain a slave to help others escape; she helps others get away from bad masters because she wants to help, even if "liberation" isn't an option.
She has been trying to get a favor from us for 1 day not 300 years,
Yes, that's her interaction with the MC; but her decision making process is absolutely going to be affected by the three hundred years before that meeting, during which she learned how little humans value her as an actual person. I thought that was implied, but perhaps it was less clear than I intended.
Oh, I don't know, tie them up, put them in a bag, maybe use duct tape, some kind of drug, or again, you know, use her words...
How do you tie them up and put them in a bag against their will without using violence? Do you expect them to go along with the abduction willingly? What should she have said, "You don't know me, and don't worry about the mask, but I'm going to need you to put this bag over your head while I ziptie your hands and take you to my secret hideout"?
I agree that "baseball bat to the head" was an extreme over-reaction, but I'm legitimately curious how you'd tie someone up, throw a bag over their head and bundle them into a waiting van without violence or the threat of violence to compel their co-operation. Again "let's kidnap him" was not a good plan, but the instant it was they plan they went with, violence was an inevitability.
All I am saying is that after that we deserve some payback, at the very least she owes us an apology, and with out it, I will continue to think of her as a 'bad girl' who needs to be punished.
Oh, she absolutely owes us a sincere apology, as does Sylvia for her holier-than-thou attitude towards Lin (I'm more salty over that than I am the blow to the head, to be honest), but I don't feel the need for "payback". Put me in Nia's position, I'd be even more suspicious and hostile than she is.
Personally, it's why I chose the Love route without hesitation; my hope is it's the route in which she'll truly apologise for her actions, while the Slave route would likely feel like she's just saying what you want to hear.