LOL I mean the answer to this question does not in any way discount my observing the weird logic of the game.
You didn't make an observation; you stated that you were "bewildered" and that you found the internal logic "difficult to intuit". "I don't get it" is not an observation, but a complaint.
I rely heavily on cheats or else I would very quickly grow impatient.
I suspect you have the cause and effect backwards here.
Maybe I sexed them, I honestly can't keep track of what's happening in this thing.
If you can't even be bothered to keep track of your own actions, then it is hardly surprising that you don't understand the outcomes. Try paying closer attention.
The entertainment I get out of it is sort of derived from trying to decode its weirdness, like a Martin Wallace game if you know bg's.
This doesn't jibe with your previous statements, which suggest that you haven't put much effort into decoding anything, and instead complain when the game doesn't hand you the result you want or expect. Try paying closer attention.
I am trying to find outfits for girls, while trying to get different girls alone at specific times,
That one *is* legitimately a pain, I agree. One useful trick is to ask the other girls present to change outfits.
while trying to pinpoint theirs "specs" in a non-offending way,
Get their stats up, ask them a measurement, chat them up to get their affection back. Washrinserepeat. It takes patience but it really isn't hard to figure out. And hardly counterintuitive. You're asking girls about their bust size and weight, after all.
That one I don't have any suggestions for.