The really funny part of which is that they're probably written by people far too young to have been involved in any of those struggles
Being from a country that I consider to be fortunately open in these matters... well, the system has not imposed terrible obstacles on me or my girlfriend, really. Yes, coming out scared me in its day (in my case it turned out that it wasn't such a big deal, but I have a good family, so I'm biased), and yes, I have received some sporadic unpleasant and hurtful comments throughout my life from assholes, but in my day to day there's no terrible obstacle to overcome for us being lesbians. I think we're lucky to live today.
Obviously even in the most open Western countries the world is far from ideal, and things can still improve, but the current situation is infinitely better than the prejudices from decades ago, and sometimes online discussions seem to ignore that fact. Of course there's people who can still have it quite hard, like trans people, but things keep improving.
Another very different issue is if we talk about the parts of the world where repression really DOES continue in a very direct way, and there's little hope for things getting better, not even in the long term.
Is there some common bias/mistakes you usually spot in Yuri centered games that make you think : "yup, this game has been made by a man, who has no clue about what he's talking about?"
If we talk about strictly sexual topics, these details quickly come to my mind:
- Insistent references to lesbian sex being "very complicated", in contrast to other types of sex. Let's see, you don't need a university degree xDD.
I myself would say that being attentive to your partner's needs and your own is "complex" in the sense that empathy, communication, interest in experimenting and learning together and not always doing the same are important... but that's applicable to sex between people of any gender, unless someone understands sex in a very primitive way, like animals: ejaculating in a vagina as soon as possible to reproduce. LOL.
- A common one is not distinguishing between creaming and squirting. Although this can occur in any sexual narrative that includes a woman, not just in lesbian stories.
- Believing that the g-spot and the clitoris are the same :3 Once again, it can occur in any sexual story with women, not just lesbian.
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As far as characterization issues go, the absence of "butch lesbians" in a lesbian story is in no way indication that the writer isn't a girl, but I would say that the opposite, including them, is more likely a lesbian girl's idea, since it's unusual for a man to have a physical interest in them.
By "butch" I mean women with a remarkably masculine aesthetic and attitude. Years ago this was a stereotype applied to all lesbians in general, today it's nothing more than an aesthetic and an attitude like any other.
I certainly wouldn't mind more butch girls in games :3
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This is a VERY specific visual detail, applicable to any illustration of a girl, so it can apply to yuri art, yuri games, etc: if a girl is wearing a garment with buttons (shirt, dress, blouse, etc.), many men don't realize that men's clothing and women's clothing almost always have buttons on different sides: the buttons are on the left on women's shirts, and on the right on men's. It's like this almost always, sometimes you see exceptions, but it's not usual.
When you see art with a girl with the buttons on the right, like on a man's shirt, you already know that it was most likely drawn by a man, many of whom don't usually realize that small detail xDD. However, I think almost all of us girls know that
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Of course it's always worth remembering the belief, which I sometimes think is widespread on this forum, that a dude can "convert" lesbians into straight girls with his "amazing" penis ^^U.
Luckily I don't think I've seen that in any game that, at least on paper, focuses on lesbian relationships and sex, just to some of the supposedly "interested" in the game asking for dudes in the game.
