Hard disagree. It would be right to apologise and have everything in the open, but not doing it doesn't mean an absence of love or a presence of stupidity. Again, Vivian is trying to protect Hutch. You might not think it's the right way to do it, you might not think it's possible to do it, but she shows that it's her mindset:
"He can never know. He doesn't deserve to carry that pain. It would destroy him."
"I have to carry it for both of us... I have to!"
But he does know now, and she knows he knows. She also knows she is not carrying for the both of them, if anything Hutch is doing the heavy lifting with the burden. And yet knowing this, other than feeling guilty, she does nothing... absolutely nothing to ease or even lighten the burden. Instead of all times to "listen and obey" Hutch, it's when he offers her free reign to fuck Christian.
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Loyalty? Honesty?
She lied about leaving early in the morning and visited Christian: Honesty -= 1
First disrespectful contact was the kiss on the lips: Loyalty -= 1
Wanting another kiss and savoring the moment: Loyalty -= 1
Accepting the dress, and lying about it origin multiple times: Honesty -= 5, Loyalty -= 1
Demanding to go to the dinner, even when Hutch told her not to: Honesty -= 1, Loyalty -= 1
Refusing to change to something more fitting: Loyalty -= 1
Not calling out Christian when he kissed her at his home: Loyalty -= 1
Not telling Hutch about her impending plan: Honesty -= 10
Fucking In the backyard: Loyalty -= 100
Lying to Hutch when asked about it repeatedly: Honesty -= 20
Fucking Christian all night: Loyalty -= 1000
Lying to Hutch when asked about it repeatedly: Honesty -= 200
Lying about the phone call late at night: Honesty -= 1
Sending a pic to Christian: Loyalty -= 1
Lying to Hutch when asked everything in following days: Honesty -= 50, Loyalty -= 50
Rolling up to his work, knowing it was a wrong move: Loyalty -= 5
Fucking Christian in the bathroom, and enjoying it: Loyalty -= 2000
Lying to Hutch on the phone while fucking him: Honesty -= 50
More private meetings and communication with Christian: Loyalty -= 10, Honesty -= 5
Not coming clean admitting everything to Hutch when she knows he know: Loyalty -= 100, Honesty -= 500
Agreeing to the "open relationship" as the only suggestion she accepts, even if the has the choice not to !!!: Loyalty -= 1000
I probably missed a few, but i think we all get the gist.
Final tally:
Loyalty = -4272
Honesty = -843
Seriously no matter how you look at it, regardless if you think she is misguided or manipulated or manipulative, or plain naive. Her actions are disgusting and unbecoming of any spouse in a long loving marriage. She is for the streets.
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The scene where she tries to seduce Hutch and let him know he is her man, and she is his woman... Please!
We can see her gradual decline. She was an unwilling partner in the backyard, and even up to the point in the kitchen. By that last fuck in the bedroom, we can see her attitude changing as she was getting into it. Finally in the bathroom scene, her false pretense finally came down, and we all witness how into and willing she was to be Christian's fuck toy and cum dump.
v: "Anything you want"