For me, NTR shines the most when it's ultimately like some psychosexual duel between two men over one woman. it's like a chivalrous rivalry. It feels more personal when you lose in that case, and the effect that has on you is greater. Whenever an NTR game or story has scenes of gangbang or even MMF threesomes, I start to really lose interest. One of my biggest gripes with NTR games is when male characters don't have facial features, especially eyes. It's kind of silly to think about but having facial features really does add a lot not just to the character but also to the entire feeling of NTR. It hits more when you lose your girl to a despicable prick who actually has his own emotions and motives shown on his face. I also just think it looks better than subtly forces the author to make their character interesting.
Then again I am bi and this is an admittedly homoerotic perspective on NTR lol.
