I always had faith in you hun, congrats on learning all that you needed to.
I hate to be "that girl" but there is no grind here, you only repeat events if you choose to.
There is a hint system in game that tells you exactly what you need to do so if you are having issues that's a you problem not the games.
Nothing is forced.
The transgender is the big titted blonde, just turn down any event she's in.
Haven't tried the new stuff yet but her big event so far was with the brunette college chick, Alex. She also has the threesome so avoid her and you should avoid other cocks.