You are right that being good is more challenging but you are inherently taking people to your lair against their will. Valzira hates your fucking guts, not just because you kidnapped her and outwitted her, but because you are a dragon. Her race and your race are practically programmed to be at odds with each other.
Just like Naho, I don't see a happy relationship being brought if you can't break or make her dependent on you. It's literally the only way Naho will be your consort because if you try to do it normally, she is going to attempt to fucking kill you. Because, surprise, surprise, she hates you for beating her in honorable combat and humiliating her in front of her tribe.
They aren't going to fall for you, they have no reason to. You took everything that matter to them and they already hated and celebrated the genocide of your kind. I just don't see it working. Even if you choose to not touch them and speak nicely, they aren't going to change how they feel about you. This isn't an anime where you can change people by being kind, especially since they hate your guts and have a good reason to. If you feel this way, You honestly don't understand the characters and don't want to. You just want to force your fantasy version of them into the game. I just can't see someone like Naho or Val being genuinely happy consorts/servants of the dragon.
Little Rant and Spoils for both characters below.
If you really look at it, both Naho and Val are hypocrites, which makes them more believable and tolerable characters in my opinion. Naho and Val are convinced of some ultra-sexist stuff about the power dynamics of men and women, hell the whole world kinda is. Naho takes about honor, her pack, and how she prided herself on being alpha. Accusing her pack of being nothing but worthless curs who just wanted to fuck. Guess how she rose to power? By fucking and using herbs given to her by Val so she wouldn't get pregnant, she was protected by guy members who thought she was bearing their child and didn't want any harm done to her. So she manipulated her pack into doing what she wanted and continue to do so more ruthlessly when she began as Alpha, but she didn't have the strength nor the tactics to drive away human mercs harassing them. She depended too much on Val who was essentially just helping her because she was bored.
Naho wasn't a good alpha/leader, she didn't try to understand or compromise with her pack. She forbid them from fucking others that weren't their race and she broke Erubon's legs because he was a threat to her leadership. Her way of leading the pack depended entirely on Val backing her up and the pack bending the knee. When she fought and lost to you, her pack celebrated and she saw it as a betrayal. But she never worked to gain any real loyalty and she gain power by fucking just like the same people she looked down upon. Her pride was just too big for her to ever see her mistakes. Her pack accepts you because you are strong and she was pretty much oppressing them in their eyes. You defeated her fairly in a one-on-one match, but she feels that dragons don't deserve honor and they should have all just jumped you when she lost. But that's just her covering for her pride again. Like Val she is unable to do any actual self-reflection and is stuck in her ways.
Val is even worst though. I can barely put into words how much I like her as a character and hate her and the convocation. The elves genocided a whole race and pretty much do exactly what dragons do but under the protection of their religion and through more subtle means. Valzira has a deep hatred of men and honestly sees them as nothing more than beasts. To her, it is the job of a wise woman to twist the wills of beasts (men) to suit their purposes. From what I have inferred in the story, I think a lot of her hate may have come from the dragon she served. She has done two things on a whim. One of them was what she did To Issa and the other was her screwing over the pack by planting ideas in Naho's head. The casual way she abandons people due to boredom shows she doesn't really care for her fellow women. Rather of how she tries to spin it she believes in a mentality similar to a lot of dragons, just replacing brains over brawn. She lost against you because she looked down on you and saw you as a simple beast. When you have shown her that she was wrong, she denies it entirely. Her ego will not allow her to escape that she lost to you. So she plays herself as a victim, but her actions through conversations showed she was pretty cruel to other and even assisted a dragon that did the same to his captives.
You really can't reason with people like that, especially when they don't want to hear what you have to say and reject you as a living creature.
