I'm not sure if everyone here is familiar with "Stranger in a Strange Land" vocabulary
It seemed the best word to use. I mean I can understand some of the motivations and guess at others based upon some of the things people have expressed, but I really don't know it at a deeper level. Many of the concepts seem foreign to me.
Full disclosure, I have never been with a virgin, but when I was 40, I was seeing a 20-year-old at the time (I was her third sexual partner). That said, I had a much fuller relationship with the 60-year-old I was also seeing at the time. I also lost my relationship with a 25-year-old over conflicts between her and the 20-year-old.
Amusing story (well, I find it amusing), when I broke up with the 25 year old, I shaved off my beard in an attempt to make a change. My wife at the time told me to grow it back. Apparently without a beard, I looked too much like my father.