The perceived threat to survival, the belief that the captor is willing to end the life of the hostage, the perception in captivity of some small kindness on the part of the kidnapper within a context of terror, the isolation and the conviction that it is impossible to escape could explain this "syndrome"... Some Psychologist have the theory that this condition may appear in stressful situation when the victim have too much contact with their captors, but at the same time cognitive biases do their work in this traumatic situations allowing understanding and empathic with the captors... This kind of condition may appear in sexual abuse, sect members, couple violence, war prisoners and so on...
If you want to justify things in common Alexia could have with their captors... Can be name for start since the Nobility until Rowan... The first because they not only give the back to her husband in most situations but they are more occupied with politics than in the safety of the realm, moreover, any attack to Bloodmeen would mean a treat for Alexia too, it is implied by Rowan himself that he even committed acts during war that would be criminal... Besides, Andras can show her how in Bloodmeen there's not only demons but an abundance of other many species, including humans who long to live a better live, Bloodmeen gather people who want better conditions instead of a static society where most of the ppl just born and die poor for the sake of a minorities who maintain control by force.
The second, is something the game is yelling to us whatever option we take, Alexia want a child and Rowan isn't the most willing husband in history to get the shit done
They couldn't and they will not be... That option was left behind since the beginning, specially for Rowan, his only one true good option was to not work for them, whatever happened to Alexia is just a blackmail to do a greater evil with his help and self damnation, his self subjugation for the sake of the story of 3 Acts (that only the first is in a practical sense done) is in essence the beginning of the corruption of the Hero, who in his selfish thought to save someone precious to him, he will condemn himself and the world in the process. The twins wants Rowan because they acknowledge his success during the War against their Father, making him a valuable asset for their plans, but they aren't too dumb nor less too desperate to push Rowan in comply their objectives if Rowan fail them, he'll be death (yes you can have a perfect game over if you don't reach main goals).
