I think it depends on the situation. A lot of devs get accused of or asked whether they've abandoned their game all the time, just for not being on a weekly or monthly update cycle. A lot of users on this site are really impatient, and it doesn't matter to them how consistent a dev is, if it takes them longer than 2 to 4 weeks to get their updates, they jump to asking if the game is abandoned or accusing the dev of abandoning their game. If the dev is either unused to this happening, or feels the questions/accusations are unwarranted, they naturally feel the need to defend themselves. I think as new dev it must feel really shitty for every delay you face to lead to accusations of abandonment. Not realising that those people aren't actually vocalising everyone's thoughts about you and are just being assholes seems natural and is something most devs seem to be able to get past with time. As long as the dev learns not to take those kinds of people seriously and ignore them, I think it'll be fine. It might take a while for them to get to that point though. Until then, it's pretty normal to get defensive about accusations of abandoning something they're working very hard on