In these games, I specifically don't like fucking men
as a woman. It feels like a turn-off, and perhaps my explanation of it was too simplistic. Apologies if I gave the wrong impression
I think I'm the same way. Perhaps I'd put it this way, though, jufot: I'm highly interested in women and female characters, whether or not there's any sex involved... and less interested in guys. Of course, I enjoy well-written male characters, but I'm not fascinated with men the same way that I'm fascinated by women.
I mean... my best friend is a woman, I choose to spend almost all of my free time with her, and she's the first person I see every morning when I wake up. She plays some of these games with me, and offers comments on choices and the LIs. I can't help but interpret some of these relationships based on my own relationship... not least because she offers her own views and they shape mine.
Thus, if I'm playing an adult game, I greatly prefer that the LIs be women because that's inherently more interesting to me... regardless of the gender of the MC.
In this respect, my tastes are extremely conventional for this genre of games, which tend to be written with a male player and/or male MC in mind (that is, of course, a shame for players of different preferences). Where I'm a bit more unusual is that I'm
not interested in female LIs primarily as sex objects: I'd like to see their characters explored and understand their view of the world and the MC, imagine how a relationship might be established, and see it evolve in passionate or tragic ways.
Finally, I don't like to see female LIs hurt, whether or not the MC is the cause, because I can't help but see some fragment of my friend in them... and I cannot stand the idea of her being hurt or unhappy. That doesn't mean I shy away from games that deal with sorrow or tragic themes -- quite the contrary -- but that makes violence of any kind against women abhorrent (unless it's an integral part of the story) and non-consent is a major turnoff.
This is a question of personal preference and playstyle, though -- each player's likes/dislikes will necessarily vary. I'm just explaining my own.