I think a lot of people view patreon as a way to buy products. forgetting it is literally fashioned around the idea of supporting an artist, Patronage.
If you have family trouble, then this is exactly what patreon is allegedly for. For people to donate to fund your life while you are getting your shit back together.
Be upfront that you are pausing work to fix irl problems, some people will cancel their sub.
many will will continue to support you financially while you resolve your IRL issues. probably hoping that one day you will be able to come back
The concept behind Patreon is similar-ish to old school patronage, but less personal (in the patronage system, each 'work' would usually be commissioned by a single patron) and to an extent putting more control (and burden) into the hands of the creator. If an artist on Patreon doesn't have a following, they have to build one up, usually by catering to what people want to pay for (i.e, follow the money). To an extent, Patreon encourages and rewards building parasocial relationships with members to keep them 'invested' financially and otherwise.
In most creative spaces, I don't think it makes sense for anyone to start out expecting to actually make money -- they have to seriously work for it and even then reality meets expectation and they may still not make enough money to go full time or even part time. This probably applies double to folks making AVN's using Koikatu or HS since you can't even sell the work on a platform like Steam or GOG for an alternative revenue stream. And further, even if it starts out as a passion project or a hobby, after a while those can turn into a second job -- an underpaid, under-appreciated, overly stressing, second job.
Hopefully
Flynn974 takes the time they need to get into a better head space and can find something else to be passionate about.
