I don't want the woman I love neither she dominating me nor I dominating her... we are two sides of the same coin.
do not take this the wrong way and understand that i love you, and therefore forgive me for what i am about to say!
i do not think you understand how relationships work, the moment you stop pushing does not mean she will stop pushing and you will be overwhelmed! the way the relationship with Bella starts is hard for any of the 2 to stop pushing ... except on the DOM route where she stops pushing and you start to break down her deference which is what truly jump starts the relation!
do remember that she is yet to share with you who is and what happened to the younger sibling, so she keeps her secrets while "submitting" but you release the pressure and you have nothing to stop you from her grabbing you by the balls and make you her fucktoy her cuddle machines and overall trash can for all her emotional garbage without having to truthfully open your heart to you!
your only way out of such a toxic situation will be the rip your own heart apart and walk away that will neither be good for you or for her, even worse if she breaks mentally because her emotional support base is you, you might have to decide between being free and have an attempt at happiness or her life... many women use the "i will hurt myself" argument... Bella is one of those that might not use the argument and just do it!
the relationship started on the denial phase... she is now trying to buy you with fancy clothes and dinners that is called the negotiation phase(still waiting for her to offer anal but hey it seems she is now willing to offer her virginity... its a good start baby but you are not paying enough for what you demand)
move her over to acceptance take control and be happy while making her happy, if you drop her ass she is vengeful and will hurt the ones she considers responsible for taking away whats rightfully hers... may they be Nami Vic or Mila
at least this is how i read the situation and the current dinamic i can be wrong...
hope my words and analyses have not hurt you too much!