As long as I remember, I should have chosen the first one, but I did not play the game in the sense of "right/wrong" choices, I was simply picking what I felt more natural to my MC. My MC was annoyingly pushy and meddlesome with Bella, so touching her nerves as much as possible used to be my first choice. He, as me, is captivated by her, and while he does not understand why, he simply wants to learn more about who she is. He can't help it, well, I can't help it.
In fact, one of the reasons I love this game soo much is precisely that choices are not "right/wrong" but actual choices, that lead to different outcomes, not necessarily one better than the other. Of course, and I applaud, you are thinking that more Bella is better outcomes, but you should have understood what I meant.
EDIT: just checked the walkthrough, it says the first one gives you 2 Bella points if you did not have Bellameet and BNOP. I always met with Bella. The other one always gives you zero.