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They are having financial difficulties and she's stressed with that and work. That was mentioned several times. They are relying on her wage to pay the mortgage or they lose their home.I don't think it's very reasonable to start doubting relationship of 5 years because your partner looses a job. It's not like it was his fault and he didn't try to find a new one. Also he didn't leave her alone, if I remember correctly he wanted stay or come back (I think?) but she said that time apart might be good for them so that was her choice. Then after a week apart she suggests open relationship which usually means that because she is the one suggesting it, she wants to fuck other people. (We now know that wasn't the case but we didn't at the time) I am not saying that the situation was easy on her but I don't see how she's been "incredibly " reasonable.
She suggested the open relationship based on the case she was given and the woman saying it could possibly have saved her relationship if she'd agreed to it.
During sex on the first night with her he is the one that brings up wanting to bring another woman into the bedroom. She wasn't having any doubts at that point. He then starts having a fantasy about another woman while fucking Nicky which upsets her. Not only that but he came in her when she didn't want him to upsetting her further.
She also mentioned they have been arguing for a few weeks.
She tells him things are serious and she can'[t afford the repayments, while he's sat in boxers watching tv.
He pushes for the hotel job, not her, not at first. She says it's a good idea after thinking about due to all the arguing they have done, give them chance to unwind without more arguing.
Then they have sex again so where are these doubts in their relationship?
She just wants to unwind for both of them before he starts work at her firm after the summer.
I don't see where any of you get she's being a shit girlfriend from.