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Nice discussion!My point is that how Melissa acted in that scene made sense to what I would imagine. Whether it's accurately portrayed there or throughout is something yet to be scene (and hopefully to have people with experience in it confirm). I'm a writer myself (though not in adult literature), so I'm always fascinated by learning new things about human behavior and experience.
Yes, her behavior makes sense and is about the best than can be expected given the diagnosis. I don't mean to say that a blowjob is the best that can be expected, rather, that she recognizes the dysfunction and then chooses to make an effort to put the relationship first. It would be similar to a husband not wanting to hang draperies, for example. Even though he doesn't like it and receives minimal short-term gratification, he recognizes the need for cooperation and the long-term health of the relationship.
But many women with this diagnosis fail to make those kinds of choices (just as many men can be selfish and capricious in their treatment of partners). Counseling goes a long way to improve the relationship. My wife has this disorder. It is not enjoyable and I wish it were otherwise. We've been together 30+ years and I made the decision some years ago to stay true to the promise I made her. I don't think she does a very good job at all in making those decisions that, at least temporarily, place my desires ahead of hers. We've been through counselling twice, so the prospects of change at this point in our lives is slim to none. But, kids, grandkids, other things are good. So I can live with it.
Don't misunderstand--I am happy. Happiness is a choice and I choose to be so.