The thing that the people that are into the NTR/sharing stuff don't understand is that, to the people that dislike it, the why and the how don't make a difference, the fact that it leads to the girl sleeping with other guys supersedes all of it. So the reason we say it's all the same is because it all results in LIs having sex with others, while the differences boil down to details that we litterally could not care less.
Huh i'd say the crowd into it understand this perfectly well, and that's precisely why it's mocked or ridiculed or the opinion not given any weight. Pretty much what snugglepiff said above.
That happens by player decision. There are many games where all LIs are rejectable. That doesn't mean they're "optional".
That's exactly what optional means. As in, you have the
option of pursuing them, as opposed to you being
compelled to pursue them.
The reason in my eyes why the whole ntr definition thing/loud crowd of complainers (or normal people non-cucks from their eyes) is so pernicious is it forces every avn to be these stale flat worlds with no nuance or depth.
One might say: "But PGJ, what does nuance or depth have to do with possibly watching a girl take other dick?" It's a reasonable question, but one needs to keep in mind 1) The real world has tons of interweaving relationships, this is the default - people get married and divorced, they make up and break up, they maintain boundaries and break boundaries, and 2), porn games in general tend provide visual representations of intimate occurrences rather than just describing them.
When you put 1 & 2 together, this means any porn game depicting something at all resembling real life is going to have elements the ntr screamers object to. The total lack of these elements makes games feel linear and boring.