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Is your enter key broken?you did but i want to try to reply with a rethread of my first post cause i guess my point didn't come across (and maybe i sounded a bit "dude just do this ez"): what i meant is that the "being unattractive" thing is a metric that changes depending on the people you have around you, for example you can't force that one popular girl to like you if you're a stereotypical nerd and she's only after tall muscular gigachads. Which means two things: The first and simpler one is to not chase after that kind of people cause they'll never care about you anyway so why bother and the second is that by virtue of the first you should understand that what they like is all superficial, which is why i said "being unattractive" changes depending on who you're with. What makes you ultimately unattractive imho is your attitude and your mentality, if for example you go about being defeatist and negative no one is gonna like you even beyond your looks and whatnot. I get the part about the difficulties in picking up social cues and trust me i'm the same, there was this one girl that i only realized she was into me literally and unironically 10 years after she told me a variation of "i want to have sex with you" (she was talking about possibily visiting my city for her summer vacation and said like "if i come there you'll just throw me on the bed" with a *wink wink* emoticon and at the time i just took it as her thinking i was some kind of pervert and not as an invitation, i was even bit offended honestly and wondered for years what i did to make her think that until one night i woke up and realized what she was talking about. Needless to say nothing ever happened with her), but you can't focus too much on that otherwise you'll get mad with regret and "what could have been"s. Which is also why i don't like the "be better" and very much like the "be yourself" instead, cause there's no definitive way to be better but there's a very definitive way to be yourself, and if that doesn't work it's simply cause you're not made to connect to those around you at the moment, which i made a simplistic example before with the popular girl and the stereotypical nerd to put in layman's terms what i mean
Of course it's never that simple as "dude just do this ez" but as you said a perspective change (or even a perspective challenge) as small as it is is still food for thought, you never know when your "oh wait what she meant 10 years ago is that she wanted to fuck?" moment will arrive
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