What makes you ultimately unattractive imho is your attitude and your mentality, if for example you go about being defeatist and negative no one is gonna like you even beyond your looks and whatnot.
We can agree on that, 100%.
you can't force that one popular girl to like you if you're a stereotypical nerd and she's only after tall muscular gigachads. Which means two things: The first and simpler one is to not chase after that kind of people cause they'll never care about you anyway so why bother and the second is that by virtue of the first you should understand that what they like is all superficial, which is why i said "being unattractive" changes depending on who you're with.
Eh. Me thinks you are kind of complicating it, and missing the point here, too.
You can attract that popular girl if you are >= 9/10 in the looks department.
You can attract that nerd girl if you are >= 5/10 in the looks department.
Going for the popular one while being a 5/10 is a waste of time, yes.
Looks aren't everything, but they are something. They are one of the attraction cues, to be exact.
And while your physiology may not allow you to become a 9/10 man, getting off your 5/10 ass and becoming a 7/10 ("be better") certainly doesn't hurt your chances with girls - on the contrary. For example, if her minimum attraction threshold is 5/10 and you become a 7/10, that gives you some leeway to compensate for your other imperfections and fuckups. Okay, I'm being a bit autistic about it - but it is to drive an argument across.
This is no false dilemma either. Not looks vs. social skills, etc. Best to have it all (develop it all), to some extent.
there was this one girl that i only realized she was into me literally and unironically 10 years after she told me a variation of "i want to have sex with you"
My condolences on that, sincerely.
As for "getting better" in that regard and as for any future attempts and successes, this isn't necessarily a rocket science. You either understand/speak womanese (to some extent), or you don't. Your womanese literacy improves your chances.
Yes, once upon a time, you and me would have been grateful for that older, experienced friend, to slap us around and tell us "dude, she obviously wants you, go for it", but oh well. What is done is done.
you never know when your "oh wait what she meant 10 years ago is that she wanted to fuck?" moment will arrive
Not really, brah. I already speak womanese. I only see boredom or disgust in their eyes. This ain't they way to go about things, for me...
Which is also why i don't like the "be better" and very much like the "be yourself" instead, cause there's no definitive way to be better but there's a very definitive way to be yourself
What? You physical attractiveness is kind of an objective measure that you can improve upon somewhat. Same with understanding womanese, charisma, emotional stability, or having resources (money, influence, and such). All of these things tend to be attractive to women. You improve, you put yourself in a better position.
You were kind of saying this in your post:
"take your character card, with those points allocated in respective attraction aspects, and present it to a girl who likes that kind of a character, to ensure good outcome." Okay, okay... but you still have to have these points in the card - if you don't, you're doomed!
You can only "be yourself" if that brings you results and content. If "being yourself" sucks donkey ass (it does so for me), then you gotta throw that self-concept in the trash and do it different. All I'm saying.
All in all, a man should be aware what his value to women is. A man should build his value up, or at least maintain it. Because this kind of is the message in the intro of this game: a foolish guy coasting around life for decades while allowing his value to decay to the point of becoming an epic loser. You don't want that, I don't want that...
