MrFriendly

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Feb 23, 2020
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Hold up. I'm the asshole here, just ask anyone. But, even I understand RL shit comes first. Anyone who doesn't, is just a troll.
I'll corroborate this!
Really? Man, you back away from F95 a little bit and people get delusions of assholery...:ROFLMAO:

But yeah, RL comes first and since I get this shit for free I'm not going to whine about a delay. If I was a patron I might be more inclined to dickish behavior but then I am not 100% a dick.
 

thorin0815

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Apr 16, 2020
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Really? Man, you back away from F95 a little bit and people get delusions of assholery...:ROFLMAO:

But yeah, RL comes first and since I get this shit for free I'm not going to whine about a delay. If I was a patron I might be more inclined to dickish behavior but then I am not 100% a dick.
I strongly assume that the vast majority of those who complain are not patrons and have never been. I've never understood the logic behind complaining about something I get for free. In my opinion, these are just people who complain just to complain. There are always people like that, but fortunately my selective perception is quite well developed, so I don't even need an ignore list for them.
 

Bob69

Uploading the World
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Mar 2, 2019
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Hey guys.

I appreciate all of the feedback on the last post about how most of you want the update to be delivered.
I will not be releasing in chunks, it will be in one large update.
I took some time to really think things through and I've come up with a hopeful solution to relieve some of my stress about releasing something though.

I do not have a current release date scheduled for the actual update and I do not plan on sharing one until it is packaged and tested and ready to release.
I am admittedly getting hit by many waves of second thoughts. I've reworked 2 of the scenes and have come to a point where I needed some time away from working on the game itself as it was becoming a bit self destructive since what I assume is grief I am dealing with was being channeled into doubting myself. I don't want to go down that rabbit hole again.
It's also been very pleasant to throw myself into something to work and distract myself with that doesn't need me to be very emotionally sound.

In this time I've done a lot of "side" work and I do have some release dates for some of it.

Firstly the birthday renders will be made up to date. This will include the girls in the months of March-May. (Zoe, Wendy, Talismah, Tia, Hannah, Eden, Katie, Aubrey, Emiko, Blue/Orange, Lauren, Anna, Yuki, Green)
These will be released on May 20th at 12:00 EST

Secondly, something that's been talked about for a long time has finally been made.
It is called "Day in the life of" or "DITLO" for short. (This is my hopeful remedy for my release anxiety)
This will be a series of short stories featuring characters and what they did on previous days in the story and the first one will be centered around Harper.
All renders will be in 4k (except for in the future when they're added as playable stories from the main game, they'll have to be scaled down to 1080p, the standalone will still be 4k though)
This first set will be released on May 28th at 12:00 EST
(More info on this will be in my next post)

Thirdly, I have reworked the Character Sheets.
Looking back at it, I'm not happy with the format I chose for them previously. Also a lot of measurements have changed and I also wanted to broaden the age range a bit.
These will be released on May 30th at 12:00 EST


Once again, there are no release plans for the update yet.
I'll be completely honest when I say I'm not doing very well emotionally. I'm okay, like life is still going on but I'm finding everything to be very tasking and difficult still. This situation has caused a lot of old issues to pop back up from things that happened in the past I think.
All I want to do is lay in bed, I'm fighting myself every day to get up and be a father and husband and to work on the game.
I'm talking to my therapist twice a week and doing everything I can but nothing is working.
I know it's a "time heals all wounds" situation but the more time that passes the more I feel like I'm suffocating.
I feel like I'm on a self destructive meltdown and I have no way to stop it. Every move I can make is the wrong move somehow.
Setting the dates for this side content is very much on purpose to try and kickstart that part of my brain to get my shit together.
I don't want to unpause pledges until I release the update but at the same time I don't know when that will be and I have a family to provide for.
Either decision will stress the fuck out of me since I don't feel like I deserve anything and the guilt will eat at me and make things worse or I'll pause and feel guilty for spending time away from family for no immediate gain and the stresses of that will compound into something worse.
And that "both sides suck" is true for just about every decision I have to make right now.
God my bed looks very appealing right now thinking about this stuff.

Sorry for venting, probably shouldn't include my brain vomit here since it's a bit too personal and I don't want anyone worrying too much about me. Might edit it out later.
I just wish I could get out of my own way right now.

I don't have a whole lot left to say.
As always thank you all for showing your support and all of the kind messages.
I hope to have better news soon.
Thank you for caring enough about something I make to read these.
Love you guys and talk to you soon.
 

Uncle Loco

Engaged Member
Game Developer
Apr 28, 2020
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I feel the same way. Sure I miss my favorite characters and the story itself, but BD's mental and physical health are way more important. I know we have not had a real update in a long time and that is ok by me being a patreon of his. I know at anytime I can stop pledging to him, for any reason, but I know he is trying to work through this. I understand that the struggles with depression and losing loved ones is difficult and it effects everyone differently. With that said I will sit back and continue to wait for the update as well as continue to support him however I can.
 

KiichiYakuza

Member
Mar 2, 2022
467
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Hey guys.

I appreciate all of the feedback on the last post about how most of you want the update to be delivered.
I will not be releasing in chunks, it will be in one large update.
I took some time to really think things through and I've come up with a hopeful solution to relieve some of my stress about releasing something though.

I do not have a current release date scheduled for the actual update and I do not plan on sharing one until it is packaged and tested and ready to release.
I am admittedly getting hit by many waves of second thoughts. I've reworked 2 of the scenes and have come to a point where I needed some time away from working on the game itself as it was becoming a bit self destructive since what I assume is grief I am dealing with was being channeled into doubting myself. I don't want to go down that rabbit hole again.
It's also been very pleasant to throw myself into something to work and distract myself with that doesn't need me to be very emotionally sound.

In this time I've done a lot of "side" work and I do have some release dates for some of it.

Firstly the birthday renders will be made up to date. This will include the girls in the months of March-May. (Zoe, Wendy, Talismah, Tia, Hannah, Eden, Katie, Aubrey, Emiko, Blue/Orange, Lauren, Anna, Yuki, Green)
These will be released on May 20th at 12:00 EST

Secondly, something that's been talked about for a long time has finally been made.
It is called "Day in the life of" or "DITLO" for short. (This is my hopeful remedy for my release anxiety)
This will be a series of short stories featuring characters and what they did on previous days in the story and the first one will be centered around Harper.
All renders will be in 4k (except for in the future when they're added as playable stories from the main game, they'll have to be scaled down to 1080p, the standalone will still be 4k though)
This first set will be released on May 28th at 12:00 EST
(More info on this will be in my next post)

Thirdly, I have reworked the Character Sheets.
Looking back at it, I'm not happy with the format I chose for them previously. Also a lot of measurements have changed and I also wanted to broaden the age range a bit.
These will be released on May 30th at 12:00 EST


Once again, there are no release plans for the update yet.
I'll be completely honest when I say I'm not doing very well emotionally. I'm okay, like life is still going on but I'm finding everything to be very tasking and difficult still. This situation has caused a lot of old issues to pop back up from things that happened in the past I think.
All I want to do is lay in bed, I'm fighting myself every day to get up and be a father and husband and to work on the game.
I'm talking to my therapist twice a week and doing everything I can but nothing is working.
I know it's a "time heals all wounds" situation but the more time that passes the more I feel like I'm suffocating.
I feel like I'm on a self destructive meltdown and I have no way to stop it. Every move I can make is the wrong move somehow.
Setting the dates for this side content is very much on purpose to try and kickstart that part of my brain to get my shit together.
I don't want to unpause pledges until I release the update but at the same time I don't know when that will be and I have a family to provide for.
Either decision will stress the fuck out of me since I don't feel like I deserve anything and the guilt will eat at me and make things worse or I'll pause and feel guilty for spending time away from family for no immediate gain and the stresses of that will compound into something worse.
And that "both sides suck" is true for just about every decision I have to make right now.
God my bed looks very appealing right now thinking about this stuff.

Sorry for venting, probably shouldn't include my brain vomit here since it's a bit too personal and I don't want anyone worrying too much about me. Might edit it out later.
I just wish I could get out of my own way right now.

I don't have a whole lot left to say.
As always thank you all for showing your support and all of the kind messages.
I hope to have better news soon.
Thank you for caring enough about something I make to read these.
Love you guys and talk to you soon.
thanks for letting us know as always
BD I hope you feel better soon, though not sure how much of a chance there is for that to happen.
 

roguerats27

Newbie
Oct 15, 2020
35
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View attachment 1813804

Hey guys.

I appreciate all of the feedback on the last post about how most of you want the update to be delivered.
I will not be releasing in chunks, it will be in one large update.
I took some time to really think things through and I've come up with a hopeful solution to relieve some of my stress about releasing something though.

I do not have a current release date scheduled for the actual update and I do not plan on sharing one until it is packaged and tested and ready to release.
I am admittedly getting hit by many waves of second thoughts. I've reworked 2 of the scenes and have come to a point where I needed some time away from working on the game itself as it was becoming a bit self destructive since what I assume is grief I am dealing with was being channeled into doubting myself. I don't want to go down that rabbit hole again.
It's also been very pleasant to throw myself into something to work and distract myself with that doesn't need me to be very emotionally sound.

In this time I've done a lot of "side" work and I do have some release dates for some of it.

Firstly the birthday renders will be made up to date. This will include the girls in the months of March-May. (Zoe, Wendy, Talismah, Tia, Hannah, Eden, Katie, Aubrey, Emiko, Blue/Orange, Lauren, Anna, Yuki, Green)
These will be released on May 20th at 12:00 EST

Secondly, something that's been talked about for a long time has finally been made.
It is called "Day in the life of" or "DITLO" for short. (This is my hopeful remedy for my release anxiety)
This will be a series of short stories featuring characters and what they did on previous days in the story and the first one will be centered around Harper.
All renders will be in 4k (except for in the future when they're added as playable stories from the main game, they'll have to be scaled down to 1080p, the standalone will still be 4k though)
This first set will be released on May 28th at 12:00 EST
(More info on this will be in my next post)

Thirdly, I have reworked the Character Sheets.
Looking back at it, I'm not happy with the format I chose for them previously. Also a lot of measurements have changed and I also wanted to broaden the age range a bit.
These will be released on May 30th at 12:00 EST


Once again, there are no release plans for the update yet.
I'll be completely honest when I say I'm not doing very well emotionally. I'm okay, like life is still going on but I'm finding everything to be very tasking and difficult still. This situation has caused a lot of old issues to pop back up from things that happened in the past I think.
All I want to do is lay in bed, I'm fighting myself every day to get up and be a father and husband and to work on the game.
I'm talking to my therapist twice a week and doing everything I can but nothing is working.
I know it's a "time heals all wounds" situation but the more time that passes the more I feel like I'm suffocating.
I feel like I'm on a self destructive meltdown and I have no way to stop it. Every move I can make is the wrong move somehow.
Setting the dates for this side content is very much on purpose to try and kickstart that part of my brain to get my shit together.
I don't want to unpause pledges until I release the update but at the same time I don't know when that will be and I have a family to provide for.
Either decision will stress the fuck out of me since I don't feel like I deserve anything and the guilt will eat at me and make things worse or I'll pause and feel guilty for spending time away from family for no immediate gain and the stresses of that will compound into something worse.
And that "both sides suck" is true for just about every decision I have to make right now.
God my bed looks very appealing right now thinking about this stuff.

Sorry for venting, probably shouldn't include my brain vomit here since it's a bit too personal and I don't want anyone worrying too much about me. Might edit it out later.
I just wish I could get out of my own way right now.

I don't have a whole lot left to say.
As always thank you all for showing your support and all of the kind messages.
I hope to have better news soon.
Thank you for caring enough about something I make to read these.
Love you guys and talk to you soon.
At this point, I really think he should just take all the time he needs. I understand this is pretty much how he put bread on the table. But we can't expect quality release if his mental health, life, and family is compromised.

Run back to the drawing board, find the best schedule he can work with where he could squeeze in and make time for the game. The game should just be a side hustle for him and he needs to put his family first. Even if it means compromising less money-charge for longer production time.
 

Paitryn

Well-Known Member
Mar 10, 2017
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Not that I'm one of them, but in their defense so many developers suddenly become accident prone and come up with repeated excuses for why they cannot make a release date. It gets to a point of ridiculousness with some devs. The longer you deal with it, the more jaded you get.

BD has had an emotional rollercoaster since his last update so I understand and with so many other games out there, its easy for me to be patient.
 

Deleted member 1571716

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Aug 7, 2019
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Not that I'm one of them, but in their defense so many developers suddenly become accident prone and come up with repeated excuses for why they cannot make a release date. It gets to a point of ridiculousness with some devs. The longer you deal with it, the more jaded you get.

BD has had an emotional rollercoaster since his last update so I understand and with so many other games out there, its easy for me to be patient.
Why be the 'Devil's Advocate' on this? People need to grow up and realize that real life comes first. Yes, I do think that BD is the most unluckiest person on the face of the planet. But, anyway. I'm done with trying to get 'entitled' children to understand.
 

Paitryn

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Mar 10, 2017
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Why be the 'Devil's Advocate' on this? People need to grow up and realize that real life comes first. Yes, I do think that BD is the most unluckiest person on the face of the planet. But, anyway. I'm done with trying to get 'entitled' children to understand.
So you're saying that because its BD and not all the other developers that came before him saying all the same things that they should suddenly grow up? I play devil's advocate because people are unwilling to see things from other's perspective: They are passionate about the game too and love it, but are most likely fed up and sick of all the developers and their shitty excuses as to why they can't work like everyone else in the world does. Now it sucks for BD sure, but thats what happens after a few devs say the same things.

Then like me after dozens of them over years you just get jaded and stop caring one way or the other. I think I can coun't on two hands the number of developers with steady development without the issues over the hundreds of games I've played on here. So yeah, while they may be out of line, I can sympathize.
 

Deleted member 1571716

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Aug 7, 2019
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So you're saying that because its BD and not all the other developers that came before him saying all the same things that they should suddenly grow up? I play devil's advocate because people are unwilling to see things from other's perspective: They are passionate about the game too and love it, but are most likely fed up and sick of all the developers and their shitty excuses as to why they can't work like everyone else in the world does. Now it sucks for BD sure, but thats what happens after a few devs say the same things.

Then like me after dozens of them over years you just get jaded and stop caring one way or the other. I think I can coun't on two hands the number of developers with steady development without the issues over the hundreds of games I've played on here. So yeah, while they may be out of line, I can sympathize.
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godkingxerxes

Engaged Member
Sep 27, 2020
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Why be the 'Devil's Advocate' on this? People need to grow up and realize that real life comes first. Yes, I do think that BD is the most unluckiest person on the face of the planet. But, anyway. I'm done with trying to get 'entitled' children to understand.
A very important part of growing up, is doing your job, something you seem to not understand but yet we are the entitled ones.

Shit...I gave up on this game eons ago, I had a feeling this was going to be the route he took going forward.
 

HornyyPussy

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Apr 26, 2020
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A very important part of growing up, is doing your job, something you seem to not understand but yet we are the entitled ones.

Shit...I gave up on this game eons ago, I had a feeling this was going to be the route he took going forward.
It's also fairly human to become ill, physically or mentally, especially after a family members death. I don't know where you live but in most civilized places that means you get to NOT work for a while but sure, you do you......
 
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