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I will say, as an American, I have issues with the word "most". Most by definition is greater than 50%, or a majority. Every metric published in the last 20 plus years this is not the case. Most Americans are Athiests or non-religious. Most Americans don't attend church/synagogue/mosque. This might be regional (deep south might have a most) but if you are talking Americans as an overall population (all 390 million of us), then it is a vocal minority who have morally imposed hangups on sex and masturbation.And I bring up religious hangups because I'm American and most Americans have religiously imposed moral Hang-Ups about sex and masturbation and anything that leads to enjoying your body so it's a fair assumption.
All this might not being he is not necessarily looking at her agency, but not trusting his own expectations/experiences/views of what is going on. He might not know what he wants and how far he is willing to go. So if she is leading him well beyond his comfort zone, he might have the same internal conversations as what you are saying that he doesn't trust her, or the situation and has to work it out mentally.There's just so many things wrong with the reasoning behind the MC's wiffle waffling, self flagellation and disrespect of the girls agency. The pacing is fine, but instead of all this internal strife tell her waiting for sex is way hotter so let's tease and fool around for a while so it's more fun. Or even better instead of relegating her to just a weekend sex object, tell her you're in but you want to take it slow because you have all the time in the world. then the internal quandary becomes less wishy-washy and more about boy it's going to be awesome if I wait longer but oh my God this is so tempting.
But instead, the MC disrespects her own agency her ability to make her own decisions and relegates her to simply a weekend fling by telling her let's have fun this weekend but then you have to go find someone else because I'm not interested in a real romantic relationship, I really just want to get jiggy this weekend. Then throws an instant wet blanket in any enjoyable situation by blaming her for going to far, ignoring his arbitrary rules, and his incessant internal mental masturbation.
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