Indeed. But as I said, I put a lot of it down to it being a one man team or a very small team at most. When you're only going off your own input and then releasing it to the public, thats when you will start to get the 'why the hell is this tied to this or that?' comments. If I had any developer knowledge for this type of game where it's not purely about sex but an actual story/stories, then I would work towards getting the quests done and then once you have done all you can to help a character, thats when you can choose if you want a relationship with them.
But the MC house should have been the first thing you can do. Get tips of crafting from the smith and the furniture maker, then go about building your house. Then from there you work on individual character requests and then finally the romance stuff. For those that want the instant fuck stuff, just throw in a few prostitutes or something similar who aren't tied to quests and just throw in some sex scenes.