That's the million dollar question.What did the dev mean by thiscomment ? "Has she already lost it and the MC is too late in figuring it out?"
"Has she already lost it..."
Lost what? This could be a translation issue with the pronouns and the term "lost". But what is it that she could lose? Love? Faithfulness? Honesty?
"...the MC is too late in figuring it out?"
This part is much clearer and very telling. And it perhaps shows the developers tipping their hands. Obviously, the MC has not figured it out yet. When he does, what will our options be? Will it be three nonsense choices where nothing actually changes? Or will they use the confidence system to reinforce that he needs to be proactive and strong in his response to prevent a bad ending? And what is a bad ending? Cuckold? Slut wife? Divorce?
I think the MC has been open and upright about what he wants. Yes, we have the option of not playing the Tori card but it is not for the purposes of subversion. The MC was asked if he wanted to sleep with Jason's wife. Between Jason and the MC, things are probably face value and there is no hidden agenda. When the MC starts to ask Steph about getting into the lifestyle, he chooses the best way to introduce them to an open relationship. The best way was not to focus on Tori or a single occurrence but rather to test if Steph was even willing to consider flirting and the behaviors that follow.
Our 'confidence' options are to play from the backseat and let Steph drive the decisions. That does not end well and she goes full tilt from the beginning. We can play the middle ground and we still end up being dragged along. Or we can play with high confidence and we are rewarded with Steph (and Gina) doing what she can to please the MC, Amber being available, and the current ending scene which congratulates the MC for being in command of his, and his wife's, future.
Throwing this out there Grumpy Old Aussie because sometimes I am a sick man. I choose the bad option just to be a bit passive-aggressive at a character in a visual novel! Because fuck her! I still stand by the fact that I would take Gina and ditch Steph if she is fucking things up.