As a developer I usually refrain from commenting in other games' threads, but let me add my two cents here. Your points are valid, but what most of the people here don't really get is that most of us make these games in our "free" time. In most cases we have to ballance jobs, family and the development of the games you see here, so there are moments that the games go kind of at the background, because other things get higher priority and consume more of our time. We don't "sell" the games through Patreon. We fund them. The difference is pretty big. Sure - probably some of the people that have subscribed see it as "buying" an update, but those are the minority - most of the people there know that they can get the game elsewhere (be it F95, or someplace else), but they still chose to support the development of the game. With Patreon excluding 'adult' content from the search, how do you suppose anyone finds the games? All of them got it from a site like this one.
We all want to have regular updates. The players want to get the update and the developers want the "visibility" an update gives us, because the game appears in the "latest updates" list and most of the people check that list often. The more people see the game, the more might decide to support the development. Again - most of us don't put in 40+ hours per week into the games simply because the funding we get is not nearly enough to cover 40 hours per week. Besides the hardware and the 3D assets, our time also costs money and we sell it to our "daytime" employers. Probably most of us want to work only on the games, but until there is enough funding for us to be able to afford to quit our jobs, this can't happen. "I will support the game when there are more updates" in the funding model that we develop the games is putting the carrige before the horse.
As I said in the beginning, I refrain from posting in other threads, but my own so I probably won't reply here. I did it not to start a conversation, but to give you and the others a glimpse of how a developer sees the issue. Aleksey's view on the subject may differ from mine.