It's a symptom of porn that have gameplay versus games that have porn. Blacksouls is the latter while most other games are the former. You could strip out the porn of blacksouls and still have a chipped diamond.
chipped because anyone that misses the choke scenes in 1 and 2 is missing out.. I mean, it even has an option to not show that stuff which to me shows the dev was very confident in their game and they were right. Unfortunately, the former is much easier to make and usually these games are made by artists rather than developers so they end up relying on the art to carry the game rather than the gameplay accompanying the art.
If you want more games that have porn, check the spoiler below. They may or may not have what you think is good about Blacksouls specifically but I think they are decent enough games to stand on their own without relying on making your dick think for you, for whatever my opinion may be worth.