The argument from my perspective is pretty simple, the Dworkin angle is a reaction of those who are in bondage to the patriarchy blaming sex on men. It enables the patriarchy more than the women. In this way it's not feminism because it takes power away from them. But maybe that's a simplification. Personally I'm against any form of repression when it comes to sex. I've seen how it just enables the darker parts of our minds to act out violently.First of all, I love that this thread exists. I'm merely tossing into the stew.
For all the bad rap that BB's story elements get, Dark Silver's first long-term porn game featured a female main character who was the antithesis of the "Retard in Lerchertown". She had the missing ingredient... "agency". You want to see her romance her big sister? You had to actively work to make it happen. (It never saw a resolution though, as DS had shifted to BB...) You wanted to seduce your seatmate? Bring her sweets, then see if she'll respond if you touch her leg under the table. The few times antagonists try to force sex on her, she can find a way to wiggle out.
That game was "Glamour". Check out the old one while it's still up, and if you can figure out the Byzantine machinations behind getting the machine translation, you're in for a treat. It will be enough to whet your appetite for the new Glamour. My chief criticism of DS is that he seems incapable of not pandering to his paying audience and just trusting his story.
"Humbling Experience" also strikes the balance. When sex happens to the female protagonist, it is because it has built up to the point wherein you want it to happen to her (those two schoolgirls in the bathhouse...). Otherwise, she can choose not to engage. And more than half the time, she is seeking her own sexual adventures. Her interactions with the shy teacher's pet with a huge crush on her were gold.
Now, can a man write a good female main character? I'm inclined to say no, due to the "no experience of a female perspective" argument... but I'm not so sure. Critics say George Eliot wrote more convincing male characters than female... it turned out that "George Eliot" was the pen-name of a woman. If a female writer can write the opposite gender convincingly, I'm sure the opposite is also true. Plus, according to lesbian feminist professor Camille Paglia, in her long experience, men make better lesbian porn than women... if only because their being more visual allows them to better recreate the voyeur's point of view. So, perhaps one does not need to have a vag in order to write nice and kinky things about those who have it. Also, let's not get into a snobbish "that's not what women fantasize about" line of argument, because women are just as fucked up in the head and loins as men are. Rape fantasies are far more common than y'all think. (Read "The Secret Garden"... one of the ground-breaking works regarding female sexual fantasies.) I like the idea of a woman who wants someone, anyone, to get rough with her... only to find out that everybody around her is far too inhibited to so much as grab her arm.
On a side note...
I fully agree. They went from "hear me roar" to "do you have the time... to listen to me whine." You can't have "strong, independent women" and expect them to be unable to handle the complex sexual dynamics that men and women have mutually built between themselves for millennia.
They're both feminism, and both the consequences of the incoherence of the movement. Right now, the Andrea Dworkin "all-sex-is-rape" wing is in the ascendant. The "female sexuality is power" wing (Camille Paglia is possibly the best voice remaining) is waning. Even modern anti-"slut shaming" propaganda is couched on vilifying men who see slutty clothing choices as sexual.
Back to the subject of whether men can write convincing women, as I said before it all comes down to empathy. Its a trait any good writer needs to hone. They need to be able to understand others and their motivations. Also, don't be afraid to ask questions. I have a friend proofread all my work with my MC Alexis, because I know I tend to overcorrect and skew her too mental, not physical enough. Men absolutely can write good female characters. They just need to not do so in a vacuum.