Its ok if you need that, I don't

Especially not when it comes to fantasy. I accept that you dislike certain fictional settings, but I assume you get it, that it is not obligatory for everyone else to feel the same way? Many of my femdom sub-fetishes are themselves unsanitary and unhealthy such as dirty-boots-licking. While I accept that some people like everything to be sanitary, in my case I detest it when things get too sanitized, too safe, too mainstream, too cleaned up, too domesticated, too consumer friendly, too sane and too "castrated" basically of any sense of danger and/or risk. If you take everything of that character out of it, then femdom would become something sooo banal, that church-going grandmas would find it kosher.