Imma just say that when you have to go out your way that much to explain/defend certain plot points outside of the game, that means you failed to properly communicate it inside the game, and that's never a good thing. On top of that, the attitude of "players are just too stupid to see her greatness" is even worse. Why would you expect everybody else to see her the same way, if you can't express it through the game, it's basically a case of showing not telling. And even then not everybody might think about her like that. As someone already said before, the typical tsundere behaivour with that straight outta manga shower scene certainly did not helped hercase (him not able to catch it from that far, it hitting him on the head after having an injury to it and she aiming there knowing that while shouting "kyaaa pervert). I get that creators can get really taken by their own characters during their creation process, but you have to keep in mind that the players won't have that same experience about them as you have, they won't get attached this fast, they won't know behind the scenes information and possible future plot points about her. If they can't see her into what you do, that's not because they are stupid and you're the only helicopter around.
I won't get into the train scene too much, it has a few holes in it, but about the sparring scene it was the execution that made it bad and why it probably leaves a bad taste for many. While the 1 inch punch with Bruce Lee was and is a thing, he was just beyond the normal level. I mean there were movies when he moved so fast that they manually had to slown down the scenes so the viewers can see it. As for the sparring, if she got him by surprise, no one could say a single thing, but the MC, who isn't some skinny beginner guy, was steadily on his feet staying on guard, which she just simply punched through without a problem knocking him off. That requires more than a little suspension of belief, regardless of the intenion of teaching him a lesson.
That's not the case. Things were executed just fine just the way we wanted them to be executed. No mistakes were made in the development of Violet there is not a single mistake in any of her scenes as far as I can tell, and things were executed very nicely.
In any creative work there is a thing called subtext. That is what does not "need to be said", but you can get the idea anyways.
To make the angry people happier with the scene It could not have been done with subtext, and it would have given a very weird vibe and been very direct...
There is no way I could have written it in to cater to these people without roasting them at the same time and coming off as totally condescending and mean...
If we added more to the phone call with Doctor Candy. Where we toss in some options to satisfy these people if they were so offended... Maybe something like this:
"I'm not a man anymore because I got knocked down by a girl... Does that mean I am a woman now? Does that make me gay doc? I'm scared help me I think I pooped my pants a little bit too... I see a skid mark! Oh no...."
Then the smart doctor would think it over and say, "You are still a man even if a woman did knock you down, and no that doesn't mean you are gay now either. You are only gay if the balls touch. Remember the balls didn't touch so you are not gay now. Not that there is anything wrong with that... I doubt she punched you hard enough to turn your testicles into ovaries. You should just go shower up if you shit your britches, and find a new pair of pants."
For folks still not satisfied with that... Maybe we could have added another optional dialogue here if they were still triggered.
"But doctor I cried and cried and cried after she knocked me down because it hurt my feelings so much! I was a big strong man, but now I am a weakling... Please just take the evil mean lesbian away! I'm scared of her! She is gonna hurt me more and take all of my women away!"
Then the wise doctor would say, "It's okay to cry, why don't you head over to your safe space and calm yourself down... You are still a big strong man... Maybe have a nice hot cocoa and a listen to some soft and relaxing music in your safe space. Just because someone is a lesbian it does not mean they are evil just for existing. Lesbians are people too and deserve the same amount of respect as anyone else. I doubt that she is going to take all of your women away. You may just be over reacting and need to take a step back."
If still not satisfied then MC would say, "But but but... Doctor I didn't get my way! I can't stop crying because I did not get my way... What should I do!? I pooped my pants again!"
Doctor would be like, "Well, I am afraid in life we don't always get our way, and in such cases you just gotta grow up and deal with it, or walk away if you are truly that upset about it. Maybe you should get some big boy diapers."
We chose to leave that out, but we figured our audience was mature and manly enough to understand that on their own.