Also, I just wanted to make a statement.
I personally have not seen much "NTR hate" in this thread. And I wonder to be honest if your black-and-white staement really grasps the nuances of the discussion and the game here. I myself for example have stated that I want the NTR route, that I love good cheating stories that I dont see a problem on a moral level and that I like Ari to be a slut. Nevertheless you critizesed me for questioning the plausibility of her simply fucking around they way she did in the update. Maybe you view that already as slut-shaming which it isn't.
In my opinion you are conflating two very distinct discussions:
1. People, who don't want girls in porn games being promiscuous and cheating, often arguing morally against that. Also they see that on principle as a violation of the alpha role in men, and they don't get a kik out of it (which one should accept though, people are different). They don't want to imagine being in a position where their girl breaks out of a monogamous relationship. They don't want this kind of uncontrolled and forced competition. Also they have a certain image of girls in general, which includes innocence and reliability (not necessarily submissiveness which is very well compatible to the slut). Again - I wom't judge them for that like you do, even if I don't share it in the context of porn games. But I do know that innocence in girls can be very erotic.
2. People who want her to be a slut but have another conception of being a slut. This is the real discussion here. I hate to break it to you, but what you describe is a certain specific image of slut which pretends to be freed from morals but in fact is totally in line with what society and media dictate today, it is full of moral implications itself: being supposedly daring, free and strong,, and the men not accepting that are negative insecure and jealous - man, speaking of morally loaded shaming language here.
What I conceptualize as "slut", is in contrast not the fullfillment of such a societal ideal but a woman who has to confront and explore her sexuality but has to do that not necessarily and always out of her own free will, who is conflicted about it (this makes for interesting stories), who has a journey with it (starting from innocence and getting more depraved), who is overwhelmed by it and not always on top of it, who gets seduced by it and not always decides and chooses it. In other words: a slut is a woman who REACTS sensually and sexually who is RESPONSIVE and GIVES IN. And who does this regardless of the consequences. WHO CANNOT HELP HERSELF. This defines her, not her being totally self-determined - this is boring and bland. I don't want her to be written like a man, I want a heteosexual tension in my porn games based on different behaviors, this is what makes it interesting. I want her to be human and plausible. Of course sluts can be submissive I would reckon they mostly are. Following your impulses doesn't make you free and strong, in the contrary. But it can be very exciting to watch and be charming but also dangerous to see in a woman.
You speak of Mary Sue. Your concept of slut is the Mary Sue here in porn - the turbo slut which has always been that way totally free, totally fucking around, only driven by free choice and libido. There is no conflict and development there, no problems of power and desire, everything gets instantly acted upon. And you have to accept that "worshipping" is not the way all male users relate erotically to the girls in these games. I don't want to worship sluts, I want to watch them, these are different things. There are things inbetween between worshipping and hate.
So, you like to give warnings to the dev about the development of the game. I don't want to be so dramatic (we talk about porn, in the end) but I see the danger in the opposite extreme: everything becomes a fuckfest of empowered totally "free" and boring slut-Mary Sues. This destroys psychologically nuanced and enganging storylines.