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You see, grooming and self care go hand-in-hand with beauty trends and beauty standards.Hmm, I think you might be confusing some feminists with lesbians, the two don't always go hand-in-hand (though often do). I would say that it's very much down to personal taste, so all I can really do is speak from personal experience and share the opinions of others that I've spoken to, which is, that we're attracted not just to females but to the feminine. Despite some modern takes on what that is (and it is something that will always be subjective and somewhat 'unattainable'), to many, that still includes taking pride and care over appearance (to varying degrees). Considering that nowadays it's very common for both gay and straight men to spend a lot of time on grooming and self care, why would it be different for women that are attracted to other women?
It really isn't a huge deal, I just commented that (in my experience and that of friends and former partners) I found it odd and out of place. That is by no means any indication of a larger trend or bias. And thank you for politely sharing your thoughts.
What you see in Porn, is largely male oriented. That many women, and many of them lesbians or bi-sexuals, inherit those standards is quite unsurprising. It is a powerful imagery that many are introduced to way too early while still in their formative years, that are also when curiosity and interest are developing.
There's nothing wrong in liking or preferring this or that, especially in regards to our own bodies. The harm, if any, may come when generalizing. I don't think that ALL lesbians feel the same way, act the same way, like the same things, etc.
But, I do think that many of them (and again I'm sorry if I'm wrong) don't give a rats ass to beauty standards created and needed by the male population. As you say some are feminists, which by itself is a whole another population that couldn't care less about male standards of beauty, but, even them have as much variety as anything else in the world.
It is a common saying that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, I agree with that. Let's just not presume that there is only ONE beholder, or that it is a male.
Peace