i want them to have the dominant kink and for them to do be the "dominant"/ "Lead" partner in the sex system. For them to be ontop of me doing things to me. Also do you know wher i can find the offspring map? I bought it in the city hall but i cant find it in my inventory. Thanks for the help sorry for the trouble
To add to Spheres answer, in the current Version you can change the likehood of specific fetishes in the Main Menu->Options->Fetish preferences. There you can set dominant to Love, so all newly generated NPCs (except afaik those in the night club, but thats very likely a bug that will be fixed before the end of this decade) eiither like or actually have the dominant fetish. If you already have a daughter harem you will need to give each an item to turn them dominant, for example you could enchant a "mystery kink" vial with the dominant fetish.
If you choose the "submissive sex" option with a NPC, they will by default choose positions and initiate stuff, depending on their likes, no matter if they actually have the dominant fetish or not. Or you could give them permission to choose positions in the "dominant sex" option. As far as im aware, with all permissions granted the only difference between those two options is who can choose the "rough" pace and possibly orgasm denial.