While most of the girls are probably on Lacey aproval, the only "official" ones are Anna and Mia, going by the convo after the Little bitch video were the girls talk. It suggest that at least an agreement between the 3 of them was reached after the Mia drug incident.
Yeah, the immediate ones, but Jamie, Jeanette and now Kelly all have received the Lacey talk.
Then i really dont understand Anna motivations at all. Seen your loved one get that hurt and emotionally abused, and keep silent, allowing it for a weak friendship with someone that she should frankly hate or at least oppose, for all that Lacey represents to the MC, for all she did to the MC.
If she were to take Mia role of trying to brake the marriage it would serve her interest, at least while dark and antagonistic, it would be human behaviour.
Now she just stands there and serves no purpose beyond reproaching Lacey very mildly her fuck ups, which should be MC job. A couple lines of "you are a bad person, a bad wife, and hurt my loved one, i would be a better option for MC love." and thats it? Wasted potential then.
Anna suffered a character assassination, she was already being used weirdly in act 1, look at the Lorenzo blowup and to the support she gives to Lacey's weird ideas, but in act 2 she just becomes a backstabber that doesn't care about MC wellbeing as much.
Think about it, she gets angry at the pimp for 1 week after the messages, but then is almost completely fine with the second round, not only that, she is completely unrepentant about it.
She is completely fine with the pimp jokes at the promotion party but then she is mildly annoyed, if anyone tried to ruin something the person you love is getting as a very deserved gift would you let it go like that?
The pimp should have left on her own accord, Anna should have simply kicked her out.
I get your confusion, she is still used to reprimand here and there as you can see, but it is inconsitent and devoid of lasting consequences so it looks like she gets angry for minor stuff but is passive on major stuff.
And we can't say "it is complicated" here, it is a clear cut, and we don't get to see the fallout between her and Lacey.
I was said okay as in she was resigned it was gonna happen. Hence her reaction to it is very controlled and calm, unlike her reaction to Christine getting hired that caused MC call to almost get her reassigned, or her reaction to MC having sex with Kelly.
She may say that she is the kind of woman that believes that sex means nothing emotionally, but she only applies that to herself. When is the MC turn to have sex with others she goes fully emotional about it. And while she does have a reason for that (MC has the emotional attachment need for sex) it really causes a double standard. MC has to accept her as she is and dont feel jealousy, meanwhile she does keep that emotion. Well you know what, maybe Lacey is the one that really needs the "Damian lesson"

Maybe MC and Kelly should try a redo and send her the link.
As I said it is what Lacey can offer, the only way she knows to soothe MC, sex.
Maybe we can agree that she accepted it due to resignation as she didn't have any other way than to sex him up by proxy.
Lacey is absolutely hypocritical in her thinking, and it shows, she is scared that someone will steal him, yet admits that it will hurt her to see him with somebody else (quote: I might cry a little) and yet keeps on peddling this love and sex are separated concepts.
Sure love and sex are separated when you hold no love for the person you are having sex with but you still have love for your partner and this gets "betrayed", so they can never be separated fully, she is the poster lady for this concept yet keeps peddling this separation bullshit to MC.
So yes, sex and love are clearly separated for some, but it is not a two way, it is a triangle which includes the love of your partner in the mix.
It is not a double standard, it is just warped reasoning, because she acts exactly as MC does.
Don't get me started with the foolishness that "reclaiming" is, that is only what some cucks use to feel better after they get their sloppy seconds, if even that.
She does need the Bastion lesson, but more for MC benefit than for herself, for her is just atonement, for MC it might be healing.
Does it have started? I mean, sure she has the desire to change and be better for him, and true she can only hope for acceptance of her fucked up actions and repentance by been a good wife for him in the future. The damage is already done, and nothing would change that. But has she really started that redemption? Well if she did, then she stumbled in the first stone in the road already. It seems that this change for the better its dependant on when Lacey feels like it, as soon as something to feed her kink happened, that conviction and wish for repentance was parked aside for a while.
What i fear is that we get a Lacey redemption that its as empty as Mia's regrets. That Lacey says beautifull promises of atonement and accontability in front of MC and others, but as soon as she get the chance she would follow her desires instead of actually making a sacrifice or putting effort in the relationship.
It depends on where you are looking in the story, act 1 until almost the end shows a very bad side of Lacey, empty of accountability and completely self centered.
From the bathroom scene in act 1 up until act 2 Lacey is clearly improving: taking full accountability, looking at her flaws and overall trying to be a better person.
It also depends on if you consider her redemption possible, I think her redemption on a personal level can be achieved, she can be better and be the best version of herself.
Redemption towards the hurt she caused MC? Impossible on several levels, she and MC will have to accept that the damage she caused is irreparable and they will have to live with it forever.
Think about it, she could easily shift some of the blame towards the pimp, even towards her bran damage (she does it a lot in act 1), yet she doesn't in act 2, she knows she was and still is a shit person overall, I think she also realizes that the only thing she has to offer now is sex, because she cannot offer security, help or support to MC.
And she is trying to make MC happy or heal him, even if it will hurt her.
I am not saying that she is perfect now, I am saying that she started getting better.
I have the believe that Mia is the true narcissistic one, and she is only copying her behaviour. Lacey narcissim is learned from Mia attitude.
Definitely, look at Dianne dialogue when she says that narcissists blame their victims (If you didn't want it to happen, then why didn't you do something about it?), the pimp does exactly that in the drug conversation (Why did you let me destroy your life?" "Why did you let me destroy [MCFirst]'s life?).
So without searching too much, by the author self admission, Mia is a narcissist and much more, as I said often he wrote her as an absolute monster.
I have seen unhinged comments that want her to be drugged up and raped, to me that is unhinged and close to mental illness reasoning, BUT she needs to be kicked out from the group, and if Lacey really loved MC, instead of go sulking during the KW, she would have kicked her out (we can't expect MC to do anything).
On a broader outlook, Lacey should have kicked her out of her life the first time the pimp hurt MC, the second time? When the pimp brought drugs and tried to hurt MC again (to steal him nonetheless) she should have been banned.
Which is weird because she has the whole "cant live without him" at least on words. And she has this convo about stalking him if he were to date someone else and all that. And yet actions kind of prove herself wrong, you know, all those years in college without giving a damn about MC and all, hell, if it wasnt for MC suicide attempt they wouldnt even be together.
Can we agree that Lacey is complicated and sometimes contradictory?

By the way, loved the commentaries.
I can't defend Lacey in college, her actions are evil to the core, no matter the reasoning behind them (remember trauma is not a shield for blame).
What I can do is giving you the somewhat weak reasoning we get, Lacey is a different person now, at that time she was always in love with him but she was in such turmoil that she used every tool at her disposal to kill her old self and come back as a better person that could finally give MC a decent relationship.
She failed at every step and came back as a broken and very undesirable partner all the while damaging MC permanently.
She is definitely contradictory, especially about the stuff I said about the sex and love thing, or by keeping the pimp around.
Look at how much she underlines that she doesn't want the people around Mc to hurt him (she checks this with both Jamie and Jeanette) yet she keeps the person that is hurting him the most as close as possible, she doesn't even tell him to drop Isaac immediately.
Eh I even forgot one comment, where MC is a pawn that Lacey is trying to promote to a rook.
MC is definitely no king material for now.