Lacey's solution wasn't a harem, Lacey's solution was him sleeping around so he got to experience things like she did to some degree, without the drugs, Mia's plan is a harem, a long term group relationship, unlike Lacey's plan which was a short term period of debauchery. Lacey wanted to basically enable him to experience what he never was able to experience, while she had been sleeping around, so that she can feel less bad about the fact she abandoned him and he nearly broke to death without her. Mia's plan is at least to some degree done in his long term interest, since she by now has a deep attachment to him that mean she need him around for her own emotional well being.
No, just no.
A "WHAT?!"
A "But... you said..."
A "You said you wanted him to experience beautiful new things."
A
"You said... he would be able to... love me."
A "But it was all so you could fuck other men behind his back?"
A "It was never about Mia or me."
A "It was only about you..."
A "You lied to me Lacey."
This is a clear cut indication that there would be a relationship, and moreover:
L "And if you let him, he'll make you his cute little plaything."
L "You want that too, don't you?"
JM "Yes. (breathing) I want that."
L "Then I give you my permission to make him happy."
L "But you need to be obedient and do as he says."
There is also the conversation with Kelly and what Lacey then explains to Mia:
L "Mia."
L "Sit down."
L "We're going to talk."
L "Actually, I'm going to talk. You're going to listen."
L "I already know how to solve all of this."
L "Not a plot. Not a scheme."
L "A plan."
And aside from that, why all the emotional jealousy then when a girl that is not in the mix is involved?
There is one major difference in the two plans, Mia wants what is good for herself, disguising it as caring for MC (else she wouldn't have dropped the messages, kept on mentioning Lacey's past and shown the last lesson, which was supposed to be nice) and break them off/sideline Lacey, Lacey wants MC to have his fun with the girls: date them, fuck them whatever, but wants to stilll be in the center of the picture (I.e. MC attention and love) while relinquishing most of the control to MC, as long as she feels safe.
I guess you got a bit single tracked when Lacey mentions that she wants MC to date for a while in act 1, as you can see from the dialogues act 2 is rather different.
While yes I agree self-reliance is something that need to be learned, you missed the point that isn't a problem for him, he was self-reliant as a child, he needed to be self-reliant to enable Lacey to rely on him, its what broke him, he had a massive set of rules organize to provide what she needed. Right now his problem isn't self-reliance, its an insanely deep emotional dependency / attachment, and its such a mental issue so deep their is nothing that can be done by him alone to solve this, he'd need to be interned for years of intense therapy to fix this, but if you don't want him in a psychiatric institute for years, you need to find a solution that allow him to as I said before ween off his deep emotional dependency / attachment on Lacey, and the only way to do that is to provide an alternative.
You are hyperfixating on a single issue which is only a part of the problem.
Actually you are hyperfixating on a single solution, you decided that it is harem or bust.
MC is a victim of narcissism since childhood and after being abandoned has self worth issues, he needs to feel needed and I believe this issue predates that, he is going out of his way to help everyone, he helps Isaac, he felt bad about Jared.
How is self reliance and the ability to stand alone disconnected from being able to not be dependant from Lacey?
Why would MC substitute his dependency on Lacey to dependency on several women?
There are plenty of things that can be done alone, but the story is implicating that MC will get into therapy and get real help.
And again, I am fine with MC dating other women to build some confidence (when he is shown to have low confidence with women is a mystery, but I am quoting the material) and self worth back, but he needs to be self reliant and decisive instead of a witness, fucking some FWB or being poly is not a serious answer to these issues.
Not considering that the issues (such as the PTSD) MC has are all related to abandonement and betrayal trauma more than co dependency.
Lacey used drugs in college to alleviate on her own end of the issue, and it didn't work, just partially alleviate her issues, would you rather the MC did the same? Go on months if not years of ketamine binge to try to alleviate his woes and still fail? He need something more concrete to pull himself together, he does need something to cling to else than Lacey. Yes working thru his issues naturally would be better, but it would take him easily a decade of therapy. And that is the core of the issue, its a Hell of a long time to hope nothing happen to Lacey or she doesn't do something unfathomably stupid again. So its why I support Mia's solution, its not the best but if the option is to let the boat sink and hope for the best or provide a life jacket for him to float if the boat sink, its better to provide that life jacket, would it be better if he could build himself a raft? Sure, but its going to take way too long to be viable in this case and it depend to a significant degree on 'hope for the best' rather than do something about it to help.
Wait, you are starting to not make any sense, who said that MC had to go and abuse drugs? I am not sure if you are answering to me or to someone else now.
If it was meant for me, please do not invent things to argue your point, it just creates noise in the conversation.
Now, what you are describing
is not Mia solution, Mia solution was to
break Lacey and MC up and have Lacey look from the outside I even posted the convo I think, she even brings drugs for Lacey to alleviate the pain of the breakup (great plan, drugs to a recovering addict).
But there is another conversation later between Lacey and MC that underlines that Mia's plan was to break them up, I didn't want to go and pull it out but there it is:
MC "How bad was it?"
L "It was pretty awful."
MC "Did she succeed in whatever she was trying to do?"
L "I really don't know."
<-- Lacey doesn't know if MC will leave her now
MC "Did she tell you that she came to see me?"
L "Yes, but she was tight-lipped about most of it."
L "..."
L "She did show me the pictures that she shared with you."
MC "Yeah, that was..."
MC "(sigh)"
MC "She said some terrible things to me."
MC "Made me question some things."
L "By all means, Mia's plan should have worked."
<-- MC leaving Lacey after he discovers that she enjoyed college
L "You should have stormed in here and announced I'm the worst human being ever and then left me."
L "But here we are... Mia's plan failing miserably."
L "Because you decided that it's your problem that you hurt so much."
L "Mia would be fucking livid knowing how her plan fell apart, because you're too damaged for it to work."
Or you mean the original plan from Mia? To have Kelly ready as a substitute (disgusting)?
All of Mia's plans are without Lacey in the picture or at best extremely sidelined.
Damn even Lacey understood the "You're planting a garden and that takes time and patience and a lot of love.":
M "But Lacey says you don't like big changes."
M "That we need to go very slowly."
M "So, that we don't fuck you up."
You are talking like a Lacey in act 1, when she pushes MC to accept to be cucked:
MC "If I say no. What will you do?"
L "Then I guess... I guess we'll just live in the world we're in now."
L "You'll hold on to your jealousy."
L "I'll keep praying that you'll stop hurting."
L "And we'll just do this the hard way."
L "Time and lots of it."
That is exactly what MC needs: therapy, time and support so he can be WHOLE (I use this word precisely for a reason, iykyk) again.
And for the third or fourth time, I am fine with MC dating and getting some experience, mostly because it will probably help with the feeling of control over his life, but without the aforementioned therapy and time to reach self reliance and self worth it will just be a stopgap because the main issues stem from the past and the betrayals (I wanted to post all the PTSD episodes but I am too tired now), even if MC wasn't that co dependant towards Lacey (
which is an undeniable issue), those things would have hurt him immensely.
Oh and
he needed to be self-reliant to enable Lacey to rely on him
is simply not true, many people rely on MC, Isaac included and MC atm is not self-reliant at all.
Last point: if by dependency from Lacey you mean stop being a victim of her narcissistic tendencies, the only answer we have are therapy and Dianne.