The easiest way to see when your headphones leak is to adjust the audio levels when your not wearing them until you can barely tell what is playing. As I normally do this with music or videos to avoid disturbing those around me, the same can be done for games too.---
An before some bright spark say's use headphones.
I would use Headphones except It's very hard for someone in headphone to know when the sounds quite enough..
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As for types earbuds can be very low due to them being in your ears, on-ear headphones are about middle of the line, closed back over-ear headphones can be loud but depending on the make can be better than earbuds and not leak at decent volumes, and open back over-ear headphones well they just shouldn't be used for this kind of stuff as they don't actually block noise but I guess you would at least hear people when people are coming your way possibly.