Raziel_8

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To resume:
- Harem is an all included version of a Polyamory relationship
- Any polyamory relationship can be setup with specific rules of who can fuck with who and when and where and even how.
- Don't call your polyamory relationship an Harem if you place limits, or if you do, expect misunderstandings

Hoping I bring something to the discussion that clarifies the issue.
That's pretty much the opposite of how i see a harem.

A poly relationship can be however, no matter how many partners or their gender, no restrictions of how the group dynamic is.

But a harem is for me strictly, the MC which is in a relationship with many girls, the girls are not in a relationship with each other, they are simply in a relationship with the same guy. So pretty much the classic historical harem.
 
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sorry I failed to get the meaning, what do you mean? that when you skip is like it doesn't even happen ?
He's basically saying that it feels pointless to "skip" a scene if it still happens anyway.

skippable = it still happens, you just don't see it.
avoidable = it doesn't happen due to the choices you've made.
 

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Now, for a different perspective:

IMHO, and please keep in mind that this is my personal view and doesn't mean I ONLY want this, no, I am quite tolerant but not infinitely.

An Harem, to me, and I believe a LOT of other people (male and female), means that ALL within it are IN a relationship with each other. Whether it is one man, 20 men, 1 woman, 20 women, everyone is IN with everyone else. That relationship may not be sexual. May even not be physical (no hugs, no kisses). But, they are in a relationship. That also means that no cheating, no sharing, no NTR WITHIN the Harem. Whether it's a full on orgy, or 2somes in a closed room or in full view, they are all IN the Harem, there's simply nothing else to even consider.

We mostly see in this forum (please correct me at will) one man and several women versions of Harem. They are NOT the only versions possible. Every possible mix is alright. All of them mean the same, IN the Harem, everyone is with everyone else. That also means that an Harem with only females is possible, also an Harem of Futas, or whatever else you can imagine. The only parameter that makes it an Harem, is that one... you guessed it... everyone is IN with everyone.

So, unless you specify your particular versions of polyamory, that include an Harem and not the other way around, if you call it an Harem, you set it up with those rules. If you want a different setup, and again there's really no limits except consent (and age of consent), you can't just go and call it an Harem and expect that those that do know what an Harem is, can understand your particulars.

To resume:
- Harem is an all included version of a Polyamory relationship
- Any polyamory relationship can be setup with specific rules of who can fuck with who and when and where and even how.
- Don't call your polyamory relationship an Harem if you place limits, or if you do, expect misunderstandings

Hoping I bring something to the discussion that clarifies the issue.

Peace :)
You know that as a rule we usually agree on many things, but on this, we do not. Some day we had to disagree. ;)
For me, as a concept, a is a man and several women who are with him in a series of bidirectional relationships, not multidirectional. Taken to the world of porn I can accept that a harem is one person Z with various people (A-Y) who are all with Z but not necessarily with each other. The traditional form can be called also
What you describe is a polyamorous relationship, which is a different beast. Totally respectable, but it's not a harem.

But taking your definition to My Dorm the family will end up looking a lot like the polyamorous relationship you describe, especially in the part of your comment I underlined, with the different members having affection for each other. Polyaffectuous yes, but not polyamorous, polyromantic, or polysexual.


Well some may agree but I don't - more than one male is not a harem it's NTR - and not to my liking - a harem is one gender with many of the other gender and is mostly a male with several females
As I said above, I can accept a reverse harem with one woman in the traditional part of the man with a harem of male and female concubines. Or only males. Or only females. For me, what defines the harem is the bi-directionality of the relationships with one person being at the center of it.
 

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Well some may agree but I don't - more than one male is not a harem it's NTR - and not to my liking - a harem is one gender with many of the other gender and is mostly a male with several females
I mean, bi-sexual man could easily have bi-sexual men in his harem and if everything happens with the presumption that everyone in harem is in relationship with each other, be it sexual, platonic etc.... and there's no going behind others back, i wouldn't classify that as NTR. NTR in my mind heavily implies betrayal and cheating.
 
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He's basically saying that it feels pointless to "skip" a scene if it still happens anyway.

skippable = it still happens, you just don't see it.
avoidable = it doesn't happen due to the choices you've made.
thank's, I had problems with "not even heard of" that phrase was confusing, but now I got It you guy's use it when somthing is futile or pointless, Thank you so much !
abrazo !
 
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What kind of role will the father of the MC in this game take? not sure if i want him to be part of the story or not. I mean ive not even met the guy but asked if i want to continue his story arc so not much to base my decision on really...
 
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What kind of role will the father of the MC in this game take? not sure if i want him to be part of the story or not. I mean ive not even met the guy but asked if i want to continue his story arc so not much to base my decision on really...
He won't appear physically. His story arc will consist of a series of phone calls to give bits of information, nothing that changes dramatically the game, but something that gives the player more insight into the backstory.
Right now the MC has some information about what his father was doing and why. Opening that story arc will show that there are other perspectives on the same story.
Edit: He won't appear physically at Newport pre-epilogue
 
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Thank you all for your response to my post.

As I said it is a very personal view, that, I was very surprised to find out, has other followers.

As I also said, I am quite tolerant and can accept that many don't agree. This isn't one of those points where I'll die before compromising, it is in fact one of those points where talking about it with people with different views actually makes for a nice talk and not a discussion, at least for me.

You can be sure of one thing, IF I'll ever make games out of my stories, you'll find that view in there.

Peace :)
 
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He won't appear physically. His story arc will consist of a series of phone calls to give bits of information, nothing that changes dramatically the game, but something that gives the player more insight into the backstory.
Right now the MC has some information about what his father was doing and why. Opening that story arc will show that there are other perspectives on the same story.
Edit: He won't appear physically at Newport pre-epilogue
Can't wait to see his surprised face when he finds out that he is now grandfather and other relations for whole bunch of incest babies :p
 

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Thank you all for your response to my post.

As I said it is a very personal view, that, I was very surprised to find out, has other followers.

As I also said, I am quite tolerant and can accept that many don't agree. This isn't one of those points where I'll die before compromising, it is in fact one of those points where talking about it with people with different views actually makes for a nice talk and not a discussion, at least for me.

You can be sure of one thing, IF I'll ever make games out of my stories, you'll find that view in there.

Peace :)
Variety is the spice of life, even in concepts and different points of view. And every civil and polite chat can be very nice. Even more so considering that in this forum we are people of different nationalities, cultures, and backgrounds. It is always instructive to see other points of view.
Change that IF for a WHEN, and I'll be glad to check those games ;)

Oh so he will come to see his 20+ grand children in the epilogue? How wholesome! :D
He can't return to the US right now, as he is being prosecuted (is it the correct term?) for the money emblezzement

Can't wait to see his surprised face when he finds out that he is now grandfather and other relations for whole bunch of incest babies :p
Well, if the MC keeps talking with him on the phone, sooner or later he will say something like "How is the weather on that island you live in now? By the way, dad, I've impregnated your wife and daughter (your exGF and pseudo-adopted-clone-daughter without the patch) and they are my wives now".
The father's answer can be something along the lines of "OK, BTW, you will have new siblings in the next months. Farren is pregnant with triplets. If they are girls I will hide them from you!"
 

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I've been fighting with Daz. Right now we aren't talking to each other. He's being an ass and I'm out of patience for it. I don't think we like each other much.

Peace :(
 
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I started a new save file after finding out that girls can catch you cheating and have a negative reaction to it, but even after rejecting all advances on the mom hte MC still carries her to her bed and spends a night there being heard by the sister. Is it absolutely unavoidable? Or was it fixed? (I last played about 2 updates ago, now im waiting for the timeskip and pregnancies so sorry if it's an outdated question)
 
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I started a new save file after finding out that girls can catch you cheating and have a negative reaction to it, but even after rejecting all advances on the mom hte MC still carries her to her bed and spends a night there being heard by the sister. Is it absolutely unavoidable? Or was it fixed? (I last played about 2 updates ago, now im waiting for the timeskip and pregnancies so sorry if it's an outdated question)
It doesn't have negative consequences when a girl catches the MC with another.
When Emma hears the MC carrying Martha to her room (unavoidable) she only gets angry because her plan of going upstairs to lose her virginity didn't work, not because the MC is cheating on her (he's not, as the MC and Martha aren't in a relationship). That will create some dynamics between Martha and Emma.
Right now, the known relationships are (shadowed what you haven't played yet):
Eileen knows about Erika
Erika knows about Norah
Alexia knows about Norah
Scarlet and Daphne know about each other

And no one has shown any problem with it. My Dorm is a game where you can pursue every girl without bad consequences in the long run.

The time jump is still a long way off
 

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Oh so he will come to see his 20+ grand children in the epilogue? How wholesome! :D
It makes me sad that the father won't see his son balls deep in his wife or daughter...i mean, when we already have a living father for once i want to cuck the shit out of him, see him break down and despair :whistle:
 
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It makes me sad that the father won't see his son balls deep in his wife or daughter...i mean, when we already have a living father for once i want to cuck the shit out of him, see him break down and despair :whistle:
(Info the MC has. Some of it can be wrong)
Poor Edmund, living in a tropical paradise with his 20-something y.o. bimbo mistress, with the ton of money he has robbed, has to worry about the MC fucking the wife he cheated on...

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Edit: He won't appear physically at Newport pre-epilogue
 
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Thanks for your feedback.
MC will get his hair done in
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He will also have a wardrobe upgrade with every update for a while.
He looks older than normal for a 21-year guy, but you should see some of my pics at 21 :ROFLMAO:. I looked much older than he did. Thankfully, he's not going bald like me ;).

As I mentioned before, I wanted to make him look older than usual, so that the MILFs don't feel so much like they're dating a boy, but that they're dating a man.
Girls know how old he is and don't mind that he looks older, but a 44-year-old woman like Norah wouldn't even look at him twice if MC looked like Justin Bieber did at 21 (or any other age if I have a say in the matter :KEK:).
I looked well over 30 at 15 myself. fuck east asians, blacks, latinos age really well.:(
 
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