Btw, talking of femdom again, I was reading the convo from before, femdom isn't all about pegging or that kind of extreme stuff; due to the natural tendency of most games to be maledom (even if, again, not being extreme in the maledom part), having a girl that isn't passive already counts as femdom;
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so yeah you can make a difference between soft femdom which is mostly just the girl being assertive or taking the lead in vanilla / vanilla-adjacent sex; mild bratty or domineering comments, teasing or casual power inbalance roleplay can count in that soft femdom category but are not required;
this is by far the most popular kind of femdom and what femdom fan usualy mean when they talk about femdom, a good chunk of femdom games fall into that category.
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then you have kink-oriented soft femdom, or what you could call "regular" femdom which is very often your average soft femdom but either with more "actualy dom" stuff done by the girl or leening more strongly on a kink/fetish without necesserly going into actualy domination beyond the kink itself, feet or smell fetish are the most common.
In that category you can also include the various ways to do "dick looses to women" scenarios including "reverse rape", alltho it isn't rape from the fan's PoV since they're into it, so it's performative resistance if there is any resistance, or alternatively it's pushing the "vanilla" traits of soft femdom into more extreme variant, such as pushing the power inbalance further (refer to level drain or heros losing against sexy demon girl type of content), pushing the teasing/bratty-ness to the limit (mesugaki / lolidom content);
In that category you can also add more definitive malesub content where the femdom comes as a byproduct of the guy's sub-ness rather than the girl's direct dom-ness where they guy is not necesserly forced into it, but instead asking for it of his own accord, such as facesitting, footjobs, male-passive boobjobs/assjobs/thighjobs, various girl-on-top positions and acts,or simply a girl taking advantage of the guy's fetishes. Hypno and excessive-seduction play can also be counted there as some people consider them "extreme" kinks.
This category alongside the normal soft femdom encompasses about 80% of all femdom content and is what femdom fans will commonly agree on not being "hardcore", at least with regards to the dom part. You can refer to basicaly 99% of male protag femdom japanese pixelart games for that, dieselmine or zell23 come to mind but you also have the guys that made the sequel series and L Depth, amongst a ton of other artists and devs whose name I don't recall.
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and lastly you have the hard femdom stuff which includes basicaly everything I haven't mentioned yet,
such as pegging (be it with a tail for monstergirls, a strapon, or any other dildo or replacement of a dildo, including fisting), anything related to male anal ngl, be it rimming alltho most people wouldn't consider that "hard"/extreme, ass fingering, prostate play, that kind of thing, then you have the more extreme tags that you can combine with femdom that aren't femdom by themselves like humiliation, scat, piss, smell, cbt, other bdsm stuff, dick sounding/insertion, more extreme feet stuff, etc...
Fans of hard femdom are fairly rare; and more often than not they don't like *everything* in hard femdom, moreso that they have a specific hardcore kink + femdom kink combo, for example femdom cbt fans are very rare and usualy just guys with humiliation or BDSM fetish on top of femdom fetish, those with humiliation will also like other stuff which hinges on being humiliated like being stepped on, etc..., it's the most "liking everything" of all hardcore fetishes, meanwhile BDSM kink people may be more onto specific clothings, gags, toys, and play types that adhere to BDSM in the first place and would overall agree in kink with gay submissive people that are into BDSM just that those have a guy doing the sadist part instead of a girl.
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No kink shaming, just explaining how complex of a rabbithole the femdom categories can be for outsiders that usualy rely on generalisations. Fyi, maledom has a similar rabbithole alltho the difference is easier as there's "less" kinks that mix with maledom. In general a girl being assertive is "femdom" and will attract femdom fans, however you will always have people asking for their specific kinks, the same way you have femdom fans usualy complaining about femdom games where the game doesn't go into their specific fetish subset or goes too far at which point it becomes a turn down.
For example as a femdom fan, I'm mostly into short or chubby, bottom-heavy girls (bottom heavy means flat chest, fat ass and thick thighs, I also prefer fat > muscular because it's soft and nicer to the touch and feel even if there's cellulite, obese is no go tho); with large tits, feet and anal as my primary turn downs; that means if a chubby bottom-heavy girl sits ontop MC and teases him while giving him a thighjob before cowgirl riding him to orgasm heaven using her thick heavy hips to prevent the guy from even having the option to escape is peak femdom to me. I also wouldn't mind in that same scene having a power reversal where the girl stops taking the lead after orgasming at which point the MC takes over the lead to release any leftover lust inside her, because I was already satisfied by the femdom part so I'm fine with the maledom scene extention, some others might not like that, feet people will also whine about there not being feet in the scene because devs usual pair legs and feet fetish (and I hate them for that since I'm a feet hater and thigh lover, thighs fetish being usualy aggregated with all the other leg fetishes), and on the same maner I will also dislike if the girl doing that scene has fat tits, alltho I already filter games I play on whether they have girls fitting my bodytype requirements in the first place. In occurance for the game, Claire, Dr Riley, Victoria and Kate are out, Zoey, Keiko, Stacy (hips much larger than the tits so it's acceptable), the barista, Rosie, Onyx (and likely Erin) are in bodywise (most of the girls don't qualify personalitywise but it's a common variable with me I'm picky on that so I don't account for personality when judging girls like this)