i know you're replying the other guy but eh fuck it, discussion is interesting.
I know that feel, damn it...
you're right, it's mainly the big dick and their sexual prowess to be more dominant/rougher.
even though "the hook" doesn't usually painted/talked about as race-play with racism in itself, but it's underlying nature and impacts are there.
what i mean by the underlying nature, it's niche but explored more when a black person is a dominant (ie in BDSM community). that's where the appeal of racial stereotypes and status on black people will be much clearer on race-play. if you're interested check katblaque on an essay yt video about race-play, she's a black woman dominatrix that has insights about it.
Watch an essay from a black dominatrix about race-play in BDSM? Shit, if I can watch documentaries where pornstars explain that buttholes stink, that shoots are exhausting and gross, and that everyone they date gets crazy hang-ups about not fucking better or looking a certain way then I may as well. (Regarding hang-ups, one actress lamented the time a boyfriend insisted on abstaining from sex while he was doing stuff to make his dick bigger because he thought it would make him "better" than the guys
that fuck for a living that she'd done scenes with.)
...are you talking about the video titled "self hate slave play and the jerrod carmichael show" or another one on her channel?
and what's your thoughts on white cuck husband letting their white wife being fucked by bbc ?
"My thoughts?" Helpfully specific. I guess I'll go through a short list...
First reaction: cringe. I make a lot of assumptions about everyone involved, and none of them are really positive. Second reaction: skepticism. I question my own assumptions and try to imagine scenarios that aren't cringe. Third reaction: mildly disgusted indifference. Not my pig, not my farm, definitely not my fetish, but I've seen too much to let shit like that bother me.
Everyone involved is kind of reducing each other to "a means to an end," to quote Kant. In
ideal circumstances people are having sex because they love each other. Passionate vanilla is the dream we fear to acknowledge because reality will be colder and more bitter if we do--realizing that love like that is cherished because it's rare and might never appear in our lives, let alone appear more than once and give us another shot at happiness if we miss the first one.
There's been a weird push, for years, to characterize swinging or cuckoldry as "empowering" when, really, it's "othering." Use of the possessive and terms of ownership isn't about power when it's mutual, but about valuing or cherishing something. "These are
my people," "This is
my friend," "I will honor
my oath," and so on. Rather than grasping at something and reducing it to an object, the opposite happens; the one who does the claiming is expressing that they're invested in it. That
they, on some level, belong to the thing they are claiming. Are at least partially defined by it.
A "white cuck husband letting his white wife get fucked by the British Broadcasting Corporation" has made the determination that his wife
isn't a part of himself. If he makes any claim to her, it's less than it would be if they belonged to each other legitimately regarded each other as an extension of their own self. Like letting someone take your car for a ride or stay at your house for a while, it might be something you value but it's just a thing--it isn't
you.
noticed how everytime a black male referred as bbc in pornographic/sexualized to be the main appeal, instead of a black guy?
that's because they are dumbed down and stereotyped to be a simpleton of sexual plaything instead of an equal person, that's degrading and racist.
I mean, you're not wrong, but it's in the title and it's trying to hook people who are there for that specific thing. I mean, how many poolboys, plumbers, or delivery boys ever get a backstory and character arc? I'm not defending what that industry is doing, but...part of the tokenization/fetishization is just because it's porn and they need to get to the action in 5-10mins then wrap it all up in 30-45mins. Shit, one fun statistic is to look at populations and see what part of a porn video they usually skip to: oral, missionary, cowgirl, the cumshot, or something else.
ntr and mainly porn stereotypes on the opposites of spectrum:
asian guy = small dick, smart, getting cucked.
white guy = average, default ig ?, also getting cucked
black guy = big dick bbc, not the smartest; therefore safer for the marriage, since black guy dehumanized and dumbed down as such, less risk for the white wife to cheat risking her lives stability.
race-play is based on racial stereotypes, it's racism with an extra fancy cute wordplay.
Huh. There are some really interesting statistics about those stereotypes--dating app research, porn search trends, and street interviews come to mind. Who's popular, who's expected to provide a more stable life or be a better husband or lover, and so on. Noticed how Indian, Middle-Eastern, and Native/Central/South Americans were left out. And nobody ever asks about Eskimo dick. They're just...left out in the cold.
Regarding your last point...I mean, yes? How fucking confusing would it be to tease a sub with comments about math, building walls, stealing proprietary technology, or the Great Leap Forward when they're black and sucked at World History? The same things that separate BDSM from abuse separate race-play from racism; boundaries and consent, clearly established and agreed-upon ahead of time, with a firm understanding of what's appropriate in public versus in private.