I am sorry to tell you this, but that is a distinction without a difference.
It isn't a "Preference", it is a personality deformation, based on your TRUE feelings. You are unable to place yourself and even if you say you can relate emotionally, I truly doubt that that is a deep connection.
Hey, it is NOT a sentence for life, you have been taught to feel that way, so, it IS possible to learn to be able to connect and feel able to feel empathy towards people different than you.
Let's be clear, what you say that it doesn't make you, IT TRULY DOES. You are a product of an education based on fear and disgust of difference. You may have learned to disguise your disgust socially. But, when given a "choice" you act based on your TRUE feelings. Misogynist, Fat Phobic, Trans Phobic and quite probably Xenophobic and Homophobic too. You can't help it. That's what you learned to be. The fact that you feel the need to point out that that doesn't make you those things, is a proof that you have learned to disguise it socially, that you KNOW that that isn't socially accepted behavior. That's why you choose to set those limits to the content you consume. That's why you THINK that it is OK to say Racist things and excuse them because it is "ONLY" on P0rn. Because it is a choice of content. Because it is just a comment on what you PREFER. Because you feel authorized to express whatever enormity about those subjects, like you just did, because it's just on P0rn.
To your dismay, it seems that that opinions that you proffer, actually say WHAT you are. Even when you try to disguise it as "ONLY".
I don't cry malfeasance, I say clearly and consistently that that is a Racist commentary. That defending it, in any way, shape or form, with whatever exceptions you may think of, is POINTLESS. That is a Racist commentary. Whatever you think of yourself, however you explain or whatever exceptions you exhibit, are irrelevant. In the case of the invoked exceptions, they further confirm where you lean to.
Sorry, but if you don't want to be mistaken to be a wolf, don't wear its skin. (This is a translation of a proverb in my language, maybe it's not common in English), so, if you don't want to be accused of being a racist and all the other things you claim not to be, maybe avoid saying things like those that you said?
Peace