Those of us who love story-first adult games will always be an eccentric subculture on this board. I'm glad there are a few of us around, though...
The way I see it:
Not only are we a subculture, we are also marginalized - hunted down even.
Sounds overly dramatic? In my opinion it's the sad truth, though.
A realistic story should ultimately entail male characters other than the MC, "rivals" we "compete" with (just like in RL).
There should be women who are more than mindless lays - they should have their own agency and search their luck elsewhere if the MC doesn't treat them right or cheats on them (and no, juggling with a harem of several women is not realistic).
Unfortunately, there are very, very few adult games / VNs which strive for this kind of realism.
Our Red String is one of the few examples I can think of.
Why is that? Why are there so few adult games / VNs like that?
It's because the vast majority doesn't want them.
It's because a lot of people playing adult games seem to have frail egos and feel threatened by the mere thought of other male characters who could possibly "steal" their LIs.
That's why almost everyone screams "NTR!?" as soon as they spot a halfway decent looking male NPC in a screenshot.
That's why a lot of games, which try something different (even if it isn't actual NTR), receive hate ratings.
Personally, I wished there were more games with realistic stories, choices and consequences, but honestly?
I've kinda given up on this.
There's a vocal majority on these forums which will shout down, downvote and downrate anything into oblivion that dares to threaten their holy "young-MC-with-horse-dick-bangs-his-girlfriend-sister-mom-and-half-the-town-without-having-to-lift-a-single-finger" comfort zone.
Similar to the hysteria towards communism during the McCarthy era "NTR" seems to be
the catch phrase of these forums to keep everyone in check - even game developers who are kinda forced to comply (or they will face the consequences).
TLDR: We need more realistic adult games / VNs which neither fall into the "harem" nor the "NTR" category, but somewhere in between. Unfortunately, a vocal majority is actively sabotaging this kind of content.
I'm not a native speaker, so I'm used to looking up words, but... holy shit, colour me impressed!