Here's the thing though, if it's something plot relevant, then sharing as others have been putting it, is going to happen. If it's something that's going to be an optional thing, then it will be purely player choice.
Also, I'm definitely not one of "those guys & gals". I'm just not a supposed adult that conducts themself as more of a child, and cry, whinge and moan about optional content, or plot relevant content unless it literally makes no sense i.e. Eric's "magical" (bullshit) powers of persuasion that instantly make people believe him over the (slimy little weasel) MC of Max, "because the game says so". I'm just not an irrationally jealous, knee-jerk twit who's more invested in a fantasy of "all dah womens is mine, and nobody else touch" when it comes to porno games.
Ultimately, if you don't like the things the devs are showing when it's not optional, to the point that you're saying they're wrong for doing it, or saying that they're ruining their game, just walk away. It's only a game.