Dude I feel the exact same way. To me she seems arrogant and obnoxious, uncaring and selfish. And look, I know that my theory is way more likely to turn out to be wrong than right, but it's somewhat of a life lesson : Never trust a story if you only ever heard one side of it.
All we know about Neil and Lynette in the past comes from exactly ONE source, Neil. That sort of story telling is usually used to setup a big surprise or to mislead readers.
I don't wanna convince anyone, I just wanna make people think and maybe even add to it. The only person that can give an definitive answer is DPC anyway
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