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Intro
Wow. I really don't even know what to say right now. Umm...I'ma just go off the dome I guess. I've tried to write this numerous times. Never knew where to take it. I'm sorry if I just start rambling and going off on these undeserving, self pity-riddled tangents. But I'm tired of being silent. I have no plan here and I can't wait until I have one. I was building something, and by my own actions, I tore it all down.
To start, I'm so, so sorry to the patrons I betrayed along the way. Let's not sugar coat it, yeah? It was a betrayal of trust on my part. I was trusted with a lot of your monetary support and I shat on it. I'll explain how shortly. Even beyond the monetary support, there were people I considered friends along the way.
Mr. Vargas and I talked every day we were available. Pantysniffer and I as well. VDawe played a huge part in even getting this page off the ground. I was lost without him. I apologize to you guys directly. I told you time and time again that I was fine, that I was doing well, that some days were better than others when in truth I was struggling. Eventually I started closing off and the messages became less and less frequent. If I recall, VDawe, you messaged me here back in April. That kinda shit just hurt me, because I don't feel like I deserve your concern. Anyone's concern for that matter. I didn't speak to devs much, but Enyo (False Hero dev) would probably remember I poked his brain a bit on how to improve my renders. He's come to me for some tips as well.
What Happened?
So what happened? Like I said, I don't have a plan in mind here, so I'm gonna say what needs to be said without personal specifics. My absence had little to do with the revamped game. I was on schedule. It was unnecessary in hindsight, but I powered through. The last "life" update I left y'all with was on my mom. She's fine. Her lump wasn't cancerous, but I do believe she needs an incision to remove it since other methods haven't worked. What I
didn't tell you was that I was having issues with both my parents way before any of this occurred. I let Vargas in on some of these issues, but even he doesn't quite know the full story.
It boiled over when I got into a verbal and then a
physical altercation with one and then the other. I've had panic attacks and rage filled outbursts before, even going back to when I was young, but I never put hands on them before and that sickened me. Any damage I may have done as a result of these episodes was always self-inflicted. Y'know, like hitting myself, punching a wall repeatedly, banging my head, those kinds of things. This time, my aggression was focused on them. Let me say though, it didn't get debilitating or to a situation where police or charges were necessary. I was restrained and "calmed" out of my aggression but I wasn't relaxed and in this state I just deleted my work, anything Daz or Renpy.
I wanted everything, everybody, every responsibility as far away from me as humanly possible in the moment and I didn't care who I was hurting in the process. All that mattered to me was my isolation. So I deleted everything and went to sleep. I don't want to make this sound like it was an involuntary decision. No, I was in complete control at this point. I wasn't aggressive anymore. I just didn't give a fuck to be quite frank with you.
So I deleted everything, signed out of Discord, signed out of F95, and only came on Patreon when I needed to withdraw the balance, and I don't even need to go into everything wrong with that last part. I'm sorry. I wish I could do better than an "I'm sorry". Words can't describe the guilt, but my guilt is secondary in this scenario. Regardless of the circumstances, it was my responsibility to be upfront with all of you, but I wasn't, and I continued this practice months even after my mind had eased. The longer I remained absent, the harder it became to return and the more the guilt piled up, because I made promises, I made assurances, I did these things. Me. And I fell back on all of that. After the initial episodes, it was guilt and fear that kept me away, but it didn't keep me from withdrawing that
balance every month. It gets worse when you understand that I talked down on these types of developers on F95, but I'm no better. My absence was unfortunate but everything after that is on me.
I'd understand if anyone thought this sudden post was some sort of damage control. It isn't. I've had a close friend in my ear about this return for a while now and he finally got on my ass and basically told me to tighten the fuck up and just say something,
anything, to let these people know what's happening with me. I owed it you guys and myself to be honest, he said. I don't think I could've come to terms with these things without him.
So What Comes Next?
Good question. Short answer? I don't know, yo. I'm just not there mentally anymore. I love this story. I wanna write this story. I wanna see it to the finish line, but I almost feel like I don't deserve to. Nor am I motivated to.
A few months after my absence, I was trying and failing mightily to get back into things, thinking maybe I could return. I had my characters backed up and gave them new life and updated looks. Outside of this stuff, I could never really escape Daz forever. I've said this before, I'm always playing around on Daz with different things. I wasn't gonna stay gone from it forever.
I'd like to tell you guys I'm in a better headspace, I'm not. Whatsoever. I'm not separated from this environment and I haven't sought therapy. My logic here is...I just don't see how therapy would help my state of mind if I'm not able to remove myself from this toxic environment. I get that's what a therapist is meant to help you figure out. I don't know. Maybe that's just an excuse on my part.
Future of Connected?
This was supposed to be answered in the last part, but I went off on a tangent. Anyway, short answer: I don't know. A whole lot of that "idk" shit here, but like I said, I had no plan for this post. I just wanted to get this off my chest.
I wronged you guys but I do know I had a good thing going here. I haven't been on F95 since my absence, but I'm sure it's marked "Abandoned". I'm really anxious and fearful just thinking about it. Haven't seen the comments either. I just haven't been involved with any of this since last year. I'm too much of a fuckin coward to be blunt.
If it's marked "Abandoned" this is not a post meant to remove that tag.
Please keep the tag there until I produce something. I'm sorry for any inconvenience this post might bring on that front.
I want to return and I'm working on a return. I'm not in the best mindset, but I want to keep doing this. At least until I finish Connected. I have been writing and rendering both as work and as a hobby. It hasn't amounted to anything tangible as yet, but I've been going at my own pace. I've thought about finding help even before all this happened but I'm not good with handing over these responsibilities to others. I'm not good with that communication and have always felt like that'd slow me down. Group work isn't my strength.
My current idea is to delete the higher tiers and keep the $5 and $1 tiers. Possibly open back up those tiers if and when I find some consistency and not a day before that happens.
Connected and all other likely/unlikely projects however will be
100% public going forward.
Yes, I'm working, but like I said, I'm doing so at my own pace. I have no idea when I'm likely to really return with actual content. Until then,
I'm still signed off of Discord and F95 until I actually grow the balls to face you guys again.
The best way to reach me is by Patreon message for right now. Perhaps I'll show you guys some past time renders of Ayana and the gang as I get comfortable here again. But do not expect anything out of my return for a while. This is just me taking the first step to where ever I go from here. If anything changes, if I don't see myself fully committing to this, I'l just delete my page.
I'm so sorry again to all of you. I just want you guys to know that. Mr. Vargas, VDawe, Pantysniffer, I'm truly sorry. Like I said, I'm not ready to be back on discord or F95, but I'm here. Hope I've made some sense of my absence in this post and it isn't just rambling. If you have questions, I'm here. I just need to decompress after this post though. It wasn't an easy one to get out.
Til next post, whatever it may be. Probably a wallpaper or a character sheet for old time's sake