... bruh. The words meaning dictates what a harem is... like what are you even saying
You really love to twist shit in ways that don't make sense (hence i ignored your previous strawman comment).
And it's called logic... water doesn't mix with fire. NTR doesn't mix with harem.. doesn't take a genius to figure that out.
People who like are are into the fact it is harem, not gangbang on an LI XD cause that isn't harem, and conflicts with harem. Like water with fire.
There is no "Other definitions" of harem.. there is only one, being one dude many women... always has been that nothing else. Although for simplicity F95 expands it to mean 1 MC and 3 or more other LIs exclusive to MC (removing the gender/sex part to accommodate reverse-harem and mixed)
If it isn't LIs exclusive to only MC, it isn't harem. Like... I shouldn't have to say all this... it is common knowledge. sharing is sharing, not harem